If you could choose one thing to be helped with, what would it be?

[Bethy1962]

I often wonder what would help me the most, a cleaner/gardener/someone to do my washing...

Having put much thought to it, I think it would be someone to help me get ready in the morning...breakfast, tablets, wash/shower, hair brushed and dressed in clean 'day clothes'! I am at my most 'doddery' worse in the morning, it takes ages for me to come round, by the time I am up for movement its lunchtime and getting 'ready' exhausts me, so much of my day is wasted.

With a bit of help I could be ready to face the world and potter my way round chores/or do the things i want at my own pace.

In addition to Fibro I have a degenerative spinal condition, realise we are all different.

What would you choose to be helped with?

[summerlite]

Morning Bethy, I have a beautiful 12yr old daughter named Beth. After much thinking, mulling over and changing my mind, I think I'd appreciate a cleaner. With two boys, who drive me to distraction with the general state of their rooms, if I could leave all the heavy and fiddly jobs to someone else it would be a real help to me. Having cats and dogs doesn't help matters either!! I can't rest unless the hoovering and wiping down are done everyday. My children do help, but the nagging takes it out of me!

Having a nice cuppa now and rest as today I have a bad case of the twitches, upperbody pain and fatigue. Oh well deep breath and smile!! S x

[charlii]

Oooo Bethy, what a wonderful question! I will have to go away and mull this over for a while (will be back sometime in July how my brain is working this morning lol!)

Will think lots and be back later....Charlii xx

[Hidden]

Definately a cleaner with a clean house it doesn't matter how bad you feel house is clean and if you do feel good you can do things you like instead of doing housework then having no energy again

[Hidden]

I think a cleaner too...it's takes me ages to get organised in the morning but if someone else was cleaning for me it would be half the battle

[summerlite]

Coming back with another answer-sorry to be greedy but this question has stayed with me all day!! If I could be extremely selfish and I could just ask this question of me alone i.e. without the responsibility of the rest of my life's detail, I'd really like a personal trainer who is a top specialist in fibro exercise.I would love to feel the benefits of a programme devised just for me. The thought of it makes me feel really happy. Ah well, let's hope I wake tomorrow pain free and with aflush of energy. If i do you'll all be the first to know!! S x

[Amanda]

I'd like a live in mum.not mine cause shes poorly too,but a lovely lady (like nanny macphee or mary poppins) who "does" everything everyday!!

[jacksie]

i defenately would have a cleaner,a clean home is nice to sit in,also don't forget ourselves having a clean body is also satisfying although i don't think i could have someone washing me,i have always been a very private person if i ever came to that i don't know how i would react,regarding a person going through my house yes without a doubt .My partner has hoovered this morning the carpet looks lovely and newish and so do i.Jacksiex

[ladymoth]

Oh yes, a house cleaner would be wonderful!

I work my way round my little flat, a bit at a time, so it never gets really dirty, but I would love to be able to get it spotless all through on the same day.

My daughter often comes and gives my home a 'quick do' as she calls it. She has everything sparkling in a couple of hours, leaving me wondering why it takes me so long!

I feel a bit guilty, too, as she has plenty to do herself, but she says that other people's housework is much more fun than her own.

I am a very lucky woman, I think!

Moffy xxx

[Hidden in reply to ladymoth]

How lovely for you Moffy! xxxx

[charlii]

I think a cleaner too but also i fi may be greedy, can i have Judge Judy off the telly to come and sort out the kids when they are arguing and blaming each other. \she would soon sort out who was fibbing and who was innocent! Charlii xx

[Angeldancea812]

Definitely a cleaner. I can't bend over for very long and so having a clean tidy house is definitely a dream.

[Hidden]

A Masseur! So that I could have a nice massage to enable me to get some sleep finally! That would be pure heaven for me!

[Jamie1965]

I want a bungalow sick of waiting for one and hurting myself by falling down the stairs so bad now I spend most of my life upstairs. I know when I actually get moved my life will improve I will still have falls as my legs tend to have a mind of there own and collapse when they want but at least it won’t land me in hospital and I will be able to go in my garden and get fresh air and put washing out may be I’m asking to much I just want the chance to live a “normal life” as best as I can

[robpw in reply to Jamie1965]

I moved into a mobile home - it had got to the point where I dreaded going out because getting back up the stairs felt like my spine was falling - it’s great being all on one level - I think one of the funniest falls I had was when I slipped of the step landed on the sofa pushing forward into the wall ... (it wasn’t at the time mind) but yes you need to find the right place for you and it’s does make a huge difference to you

[Jamie1965]

A bungalow will mean more independence. And less help from others

[robpw]

I would choose a dog as a companion lol I want someone who’s not going to get upset if I have a bad day

[oldwomaninpain]

I enjoy living in a single storey building, the huge problem is that it is at top of small hill, great views but I really need a travelator or escalator to get to it on foot!! So I use the car too much and the dog now queues up by the car expecting to be taken for a ''walk'' to level ground LoL