I was wrong.
It was a stage 3 meeting.
However, although that was a shock and I had to hold onto my emotions it actually wasn't too bad as I will have another later. Let me explain. My line manager isn't in on a Friday and the term is coming to a close so there is not much time to get everything done - so we couldn't wait for her. Barbara is the Bursar [well she has a better title than that but I can't recall it - anyway its her job to make sure our jobs are safe as in safe environment]
She didn't tell me it was a stage 3 but slipped it into the conversation. I pounced on it and asked her to clarify stating that I had wanted someone with me for that meeting. However, as it turns out this was more like a pre-emptive meeting. There will be another stage 3 when I next trigger it by being off, but in the meantime she needed to set up some guidelines, check work were doing everything and making sure I knew what was going on. She said that she was doing this although she should not, there should be only one stage 3 meeting.
It all sounded okay although I was a bit shaken I could take it in and there didn't seem to be anything to worry about, except when I mentioned the Occupational Health Advisors report, she found the comments in it about my possibly reducing my hours or cutting out Wednesday; she then quietly said that would depend on whether that would fit in with work and whether that would be possible, and moved on. So there is a chance it would not suit them. It seemed like a 'don't count on it' warning. We shall see.
When I have my stage 3 meeting, I have to have enough warning to get a rep from the Union to come. I will also need to meet with that persion before then to discuss what I want out of the meeting as there is little point in them going in not knowing!
Anyway, it seems she was kind of breaking the rules here, for me. She said she should not but she needed to make sure she had details correct and that I had everything I needed. I guess it was tying up loose ends so she didn't look bad in front of others, but if it helps us both, I don't mind. I think she has been doing her best for me whilst doing her job.
She's chasing up the chair I should have had months ago - that will be nice to have something I should be using instead of the wobbly thing I have. I won't spare them though. It will still be brought up that I waited months for it - since March!
We discussed one off sick time she had no notes on. I showed her my diary. I keep one and make notes every time now. Arn't I good! Anyway, I told her that I had a migraine, triggered by the excessive heat in a classroom I was in for 3 hours which had only two windows that could only open slightly. I also said I was surprised students had not passed out. I was asked "do you carry any water on you?" I felt rather smug when I pulled out my water bottle from my bag - its a fairly small shoulder bag and did not look like it could hold one, but its a bit Mary Poppins like as it holds a lot! Anyway I was able to link my migraine to my FM too as I said it would not have been as bad if I did not have it.
We also discussed my bad back. That was triggered by a slip off a work chair - owww! I had to go home 20 minutes early! Oh shame! Anyway it hurt and continued to be a problem. I got the chance to say that it became a weak spot, flaring each time I pushed myself up a ramp or had hydro therapy and stopped after a rest and stopping Hydro and pushing myself up with my arms. I now either push my empty chair or go in reverse which is better - no in and out of the chair. My back has been a lot better since.
She pointed out that my incidences of being off sick had become less frequent, but longer, which seems to indicate that I am becoming more aware of my FM limitations although my body is not always recovering quickly. I agreed that it appeared that way and I do feel that I know myself better. I had told them that it would take a while, but she had not remembered that. Oh well.
Anyway, I took myself off for a calm down and a cup of tea. I was in no state to go back into class and they were ones that would be okay. Of course it would have been better for them had I been there, but as I said I would not have been much use.
Not long now until the end of term.
Soft hugs everyone.