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What is a "typical" FM personality?

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Are you a "highly sensitive" person? -- I find the slightest upset reduces me to tears! I try and avoid any "ugly confrontation" at all costs!! I refuse to be drawn into an argument.

Are you a "perfectionist"? I am never "happy" unless everything is tidy and working perfectly.

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sounds like me on a good day finding it hard when the grandchildren are with me i have 5 8,9,two at 3, one at 10months, after hour a hour just want to retreat too the bed room for peace, and quiet , my daughters find me strange has i have all ways been quiet lively person but lately find myself quiet, irritable, snappy. i just take each day has they come now and make the most of it

I hate conflict, will go out of my way to avoid it, I hate saying no to people, {Im a perfectionist,I tend to be happy with life but worry about other people esp my family, I like my quiet times, but used to love living it up, I was rarely depressed. Im quiet and believe it or not quite shy, find it hard to make friends but when I do their for life, I get easily hurt because I cant understand why people need to be nasty,so all in all Im a typical cancerian, oh and as my hubby tells me I sulk

hi there if it exists my fella is a compulsive perfectionist and he has c.f.s,

i am a perfectionist to a certain degree.we also are very teary and do not like fights or arguments.

in fact we dont argue at all.we tend to just go into separate rooms and leave one another alone for a bit.x

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shazzad

I was a perfectionist.....in everything i did. but as fibro took hold at work i became irritated by the slightist thing, i also became hostile to my work colleagues, i then struggled to cope with my work load, i became angry every time an extra job was given to me. Apparently very much the same at home. I lost my job this year in February and although i have less stress now, apart from financial issues that we all have i have learnt to pace myself, i try not to worry about other peoples problems too, as friends and family used to rely on me a lot and i just cant do all i used to.

Shazzad xx

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shazzad

I was a perfectionist.....in everything i did. but as fibro took hold at work i became irritated by the slightist thing, i also became hostile to my work colleagues, i then struggled to cope with my work load, i became angry every time an extra job was given to me. Apparently very much the same at home. I lost my job this year in February and although i have less stress now, apart from financial issues that we all have i have learnt to pace myself, i try not to worry about other peoples problems too, as friends and family used to rely on me a lot and i just cant do all i used to.

Shazzad xx

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wallflower_fairy

I was sensitive, fussy, neurotic and depressed some of the time. This all before I got the fibro.

After I got fibro I woke up. I realised how lucky I've been - and still am. Part of it was relief I had fibro and not something really serious (before I was diagnosed thinking all sort of crazy things that could be wrong with me- it was horrible.) - and that at least the symptoms could be managed. I also realised you can't control everything. I HAD to learn to adapt and make changes, so I did- and this has helped me become more accepting generally. I take the rough with the smooth. I had too, before I was making myself miserable.

I am still anxious and sensitive- and bad periods can cause irritation of things arn't 'right'. But I'm better than I was, I'm also still I'm still the good things I was chatty, giggly etc... although I think I've lost my singing voice a little. :( I sometimes have trouble breathig now- does anyone else get this ?

I tend to pay more attention to the bright things in life. Simple things put a smile on my face. Funny how that happened. I guess its that saying: What doesn't kill you, makes you stronger.

Hugs to all

wanderingwallflower xx :)

(P.S - sorry if this is confusing, I'm a little tired and had to delete and edit this once already, so I hope this all makes sense.)

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P.S.S.

Just for an afterthought thats another thing. I waffle now and make silly mistakes - and I'm clumsy which I put down to 'fog' and tiredness some of the time.

But I've always been a clutz ! Now I just laugh about it. :)

x

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penny41

hey all the above applies but it is late ansd i am going to try to sleep

soft hugs xxx

penny

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Kasha

I personally don't think there is a typical FM personality, I believe "life" shapes our personalities and I dont think I have any of the affore mentioned traits. lol Confrontation doesnt phaze me at all, and If I have had shoddy service anywhere I am the first to tell them what I think. :-) I think we (Fybro sufferers) will have similarities in the way we have had to adapt our lives, and maybe are more appreciative of little things that others take for granted but I think thats as far as it goes. x

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Kasha

I personally don't think there is a typical FM personality, I believe "life" shapes our personalities and I dont think I have any of the affore mentioned traits. lol Confrontation doesnt phaze me at all, and If I have had shoddy service anywhere I am the first to tell them what I think. :-) I think we (Fybro sufferers) will have similarities in the way we have had to adapt our lives, and maybe are more appreciative of little things that others take for granted but I think thats as far as it goes. x

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