Thought of the Day

[Dinkie]

Thought I would repost this from my post some 5 yrs ago. I’ve missed out the pre-amble as it’s irrelevant now but the sentiment remains the same;

If the mountain seems too big today

Then climb a hill instead

If the morning brings you sadness

It’s ok to stay in bed.

If the day ahead weighs heavy

And your plans feel like a curse

There’s no shame in rearranging,

Don’t make yourself feel worse,

If a shower stings like needles

And a bath feels like you’ll drown

If you haven’t washed your hair for days,

Don’t throw away your crown.

A day is not a lifetime

A rest is not defeat,

Don’t think of it as failure,

Just a quiet, kind retreat

It’s ok to take a moment

From an anxious fractured mind,

The world will not stop turning

While you get realigned.

The mountain will still be there

When you want to try again,

You can climb it in your own time,

Just love yourself til then.

(Laura Ding-Edwards)

[Choco-holic37]

yes!! Love this, lots

[honeybug]

thank you Dinkie; I needed to hear this. I’ll keep it to remind me in the days ahead

Love you sweetie. 🤗🥰❤️🙏🕊️

[Dinkie in reply to honeybug]

Dearest Honeybug how lovely to hear from you. Forever in my thoughts. Keep strong EJ.

[honeybug in reply to Dinkie]

Thank you love…been struggling since my 95 yo dad passed in November.

❤️🥰🤗🙏🕊️

[Dinkie in reply to honeybug]

Bless you, this is my first post since I lost my husband during lockdown. We just soldier on don’t we. Onwards and upwards as there is no other way😁

[honeybug in reply to Dinkie]

Yes love..some days harder than others but we must carry on. Love you Dink 🤗❤️🥰🙏🌿🌹

[Choco-holic37 in reply to Dinkie]

Definitely some people on here need to really think of souls like you who has perhaps been through so much more than many of us have in our entire lives.

[desquinn Partner Volunteer FMAUK Trustee in reply to Choco-holic37]

This is very judgemental and not thinking of others. Who on here is telling all about their lives. We do not the mental struggles that people are going through, the stress their job places on them, the chaos of their family situation, or the lack of financial security that makes every decision a minefield.

Its a fibro group but just as we have supported others when they have had domestic violence, or have particular mental health conditions that they do not disclose but want support with their fibro.

[Choco-holic37 in reply to desquinn]

Not meaning to be judgmental, was merely saying that what I read this lady has gone through and has fibromyalgia it’s just tragic. Some people have much less going on and some have much more.

we don’t know what’s going on behind the doors of this community obviously and I won’t deny that, merely saying this lady and her hardships just makes you step back and think “could my issues be less than this ladies are”

I hope i am making sense with what I am trying To say! I know what I am intending on communicating.

[Wobblygirl in reply to desquinn]

I think your response was harsh!Your point may be valid but I think you could have softened the language to explain yr take without diminishing another...

I think it makes you seem as if you are policing comments!

Given that you acknowledge the underlying distress of living with fibro and its many ramifications, maybe gentle understanding is the way forward...

[desquinn Partner Volunteer FMAUK Trustee in reply to Wobblygirl]

Sorry that it comes across as harsh but the response was not in isolation although I will not add to that. It was not seeking to diminish anyone.

Unfortunately, I am policing comments as part of my role on here as a moderator. I will sometimes get the tone wrong as well but it was my intention to be stronger in tone in this case.

[Wobblygirl in reply to desquinn]

Obviously I'm not aware of the whole array of issues you have to deal with, on the forum and if the post read followed trends of being judgemental, then I can better understand your response...

Thank you 4 clarifying so promptly!

Dialogue always helps to understand each other better and maybe now I understand your role in a different light?

This is a great forum. Thank you to all involved. I come on here daily as I live alone most of the week+my friends+family still think I'm lazy for not achieving more, so to contribute+be heard here is a wonderful gift. Thank you.

[desquinn Partner Volunteer FMAUK Trustee in reply to Wobblygirl]

I try and be as transparent as possible but also try and maintain confidentiality even although this is an anonymous forum. Getting the balance right is always a challenge.

[Wobblygirl in reply to desquinn]

I'm sure it is...

[Fairylightsparkle in reply to Wobblygirl]

That’s what moderators do isn’t it? 😛

[Choco-holic37]

brave ladies both of you

Much respect

[Blue-52]

Beautiful, and so true, thank you for sharing hun, bless you.

[Dinkie in reply to Blue-52]

You’re welcome, I was just looking through some of my previous jokey posts with my partner in crime dear ole Mattoid-mags when this one spoke to me and so I decided to to share it again. Apologies if anyone remembers it - I’m relying on fibro-fog to have descended so nobody recollects it😂

[Blue-52 in reply to Dinkie]

🤷‍♀️ I have kinda forgotten 😂😂

Say hi to mags for me. Xx

[Dinkie in reply to Blue-52]

🤣😂 me too and I posted it🤦‍♀️

[Blue-52 in reply to Dinkie]

😂😂

[Dizzytwo]

Wonderful Dinks, may I take a copy pls xx

[Dinkie in reply to Dizzytwo]

Of course I found it somewhere probably someone sent it to me when I was going through a tough time. Can’t recall when or where- I can blame fibro fog for that lack of recall. Or perhaps I’ve had too many rough patches to remember 😂🤣 who knows🤦‍♀️

[Dizzytwo in reply to Dinkie]

Thank you x

[Dinkie in reply to Dizzytwo]

I just love it because it gives me permission to not wear my big girl pants for a day😂

[Dizzytwo in reply to Dinkie]

Your lucky the size of me they are the only pants size I can get into 😆

[Wobblygirl in reply to Dinkie]

Great response and made me laugh out loud!Great poem and so many thanks for allowing/showing us that a slower approach can be the right route to take...

Thank you again for sharing this; it's helped me deal with today and maybe 2moro...

[Dinkie in reply to Dizzytwo]

PS. I do have other pants I do t go commando 😂

[Dizzytwo in reply to Dinkie]

😲 OMG 😆 too much information dinks 😆

[Dinkie in reply to Dizzytwo]

🤣 honest I never go commando - feel the cold too much😂

[Ladame]

Thank you for this - it says it all- so to speak!

[Fibroenemy]

Thanks for that it just hit the right note

[saj01]

That is lovely, thank you.

Stella

[KimiJay]

Thank you Dinkie. I really enjoyed (and needed) to read that poem. It's just the advice I needed after stuff that happened last year. I have also found out about L D-E on Youtube and have discovered she also has a book. - There is a man called Steven Moore who is reading it on another youtube. - I shall be searching out this poetess occasionally from now on if my brain fog allows the recall!!! I wish you a good and trauma free 2025. xx KJ