anyone feel the same?

[Scooterz2]

recently, I would say in the last18 months I have been dreading the future, I know we have no idea what the future really looks like. However my health is very rapidly deteriorating and I am hardly ancient. what will I need like in a years time, in 2 years, in 5 etc. for the first time in my life I feel fear. And I don’t really know what to do about it.

[Blue-52]

hey, take one day at a time, I too am experiencing lots of difficulties, pain, walking every day I wake, and think ok, what is today going to bring??, but we have to focus on each day, take time to see how we feel, and try our coping strategies, and try to stay strong, my nerve damage in my neck and spine has been horrendous for ages now, every morning I wake, if slept and try and stretch and try and move gently, and then in my mind, I give myself a quick booty up the bum, and tell myself stay strong, there are some people worse off than you.

I. Try and use my cbt tools, and try and cut through it, but we have a lovely community on Hu, so don’t be afraid, we are all here to help you and guide you, as much as we can.

Gentle healing hugs, stay strong 🤗🤗🤗

[honeybug in reply to Blue-52]

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[Blue-52 in reply to honeybug]

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[Hazel_Angelstar Administrator FMA UK Staff]

Personally, my health is better now than it was 20+years ago. I still have the same fibromyalgia issues along with other health conditions added on - the main difference being in how I manage those symptoms and a change in mindset

I no longer worry about what the future might hold and just focus on the here and now

[LisaSnow FMA UK Volunteer]

Our health does not need to get worse. It may feel that way when we are down but that is just not a fact. You still have many years ahead of you and the best self care you can give yourself, the healthier, stronger, and more resilient you will be.

[Loobielu]

Hi Scooterz22, I feel exactly the same and I think those fears are rational. I turned 50 this year and that's a weird age. I now have more time behind me than ahead of me and in theory things are only going to age! We do have to push these thoughts away as they aren't really in our control and just take one day at a time - that's not easy I know. Big hugs, we are stronger than we know x

[Dinkie]

Personally, I have learned not to worry about things out of my control. Positive mental attitude is what the consultant told me on diagnosis and although it's hard I try to think of at least one positive thing per day, bit like the glad game played by Pollyanna in the book Pollyanna.

Yes, my life is different now, not worse just different and I have found other ways of doing the things I love. I competed with my dogs - can't do it now so I just steward occasionally. That way I keep in touch with the world of dogs and meet all the folk I used to compete against and instead of paying to compete I am paid to steward😊 I used to love to read but can't concentrate enough so I use talking books as it's easier to listen than read.

Have you tried some CBT sessions? Works for some, didn't do much for me but I know others have benefitted. I went with an open mind hoping for improvement but somehow I came out of it with a worse score than when I went in. I am waiting to give it another go, hoping that a different course might yield some benefits.

[honeybug in reply to Dinkie]

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[Aka-Ice]

I've also been the same and very depressed because of it. I was fit healthy active and very capable and totally independent. Now I'm none of them and don't know who I am and what my purpose is and can be x

[lynn_lunn]

I know the feeling, I'm 65 and had to leave my job 2 years ago due to my health. I had a spinal operation last year after waiting 2years. Now having issues with my lower back with horrendous nerve pain in my right leg. Have been taking gabapentin for a few years now for this problem, but things have got much worse recently. Trying to get a doctors appointment at moment to see the way forward from here.

[auntysue]

Hi, im feeling such dread also, so scared of whats to come, my pain is spreading like a fire and im exhausted.

[denny_the_wench]

you don't know what to do about it,

As you told me " well you can't change it so why worry"

Just think of the mental hurt you might cause before you post your reply to someone next time and try and be kinder

[Scooterz2 in reply to denny_the_wench]

I think you took my reply completely the wrong way.