hey guys, I hop you are all coping and in a good place, I’m absolutely exhausted and if that blinking bus had stopped I would be ok 😂.
Well some of you know about my daughter G, I will apologise if this offends anyone, and if admin want to take it down, so be it.
So we traveled to hull/ York in Beverly for two day stay, my g is transitioning to be a man, and was having a mastectomy, I kind of coped with the 1st stay, for 2 days, then hospital said we had to find another accommodation for the 3rd day, that wasn’t on the cards, the only place was a house. So my husband had to drive 3 hours to get me home, there was no way I could do stairs, then another 3 hours straight back, my body is absolutely killing me, as I had to sleep on a sofer, what we put ourselves through for our kids.
Tomorrow I know is going to be completely worse, as each day after activities it gets worse 😳. Wishing you all a blessed pain free night and day.
sending some gentle hugs. You will be dealing not only with the physical effort of travelling /staying away from home but also the emotional impact of supporting G through his surgery xxx
oh sweetie I know exactly how you feel ,glad G is getting her surgery .All I can do is send my love and hugs because I too am in a world of pain too.I pray we both get some relief .🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🤗🤗🤗💕💕💕💕
hey my beautiful friend, I’m so proud of him, he is doing amazing with pain, I wish I was. Sending you lots of healing hugs my sweet friend, I’m with you with pain. 🙏🙏❤️🥰🥰🥰
I’m pleased he is doing well it must be so painful but he will have his true body and that will complete him .I pray that he sails through it .My darling I’m sorry you are in so much pain .I am praying for you sweet girl .xx💕💕
please be careful you are so unwell yourself please remember to take care of you .Like me the least little extra we do has to be paid for in pain and exhaustion ,you are very limited in movement yourself . Praying that you and G recover well .I’m so worried for you .Love and hugs .💕🤗💕🤗
bless you hun, my neighbour is going to help me, she’s a cater so she knows how to sit him up, one thing I definitely can’t do, there is prepared meals in the freezer, M will help when he is home, but I know the in between bits is going to be hard for me, but I will use my chair, as I can’t afford anymore falls, and try and pace it out.
We will all pull together, my neighbour helps me to, she’s so kind, so I’m 🙏 for me to get through it. Don’t worry, I will be careful, and Jay knows my limits.
Thank you for caring hun. Luv and healing hugs. ❤️🥰🤗🤗
we’ll rest assured I will be asking Gods grace on you both and for your wonderful neighbour praise God for herb.I know G knows knows your limitations but us mothers are so caring we want to do everything to our detriment and you can’t afford to do that my darling you can’t ,so let the ones who can do it and you can comfort him .That will help him through as much as any lifting etc .Love you sweetie .How’s M doing is he recovered .🙏🏻💕🙏🏻💕🤗🤗🤗
thank you sweetie, I promise not to do stuff, I know I can’t, I know I want to push it, but even J, is saying I need you to cope, so don’t feel you have to do anything you can’t cope with, so I’m being good, truly I have no choice, and I’m one armed anyway 🤪.
Love ya too sweetie.
M is good now, other than his leg is still dark at the back, but the clinic are not bothered about it, Thank you for asking hun, I hope D and the family are all good . 🥰🙏❤️🤗🤗❤️
well that makes me feel better for sure .D is good as are all the family thanks .I’m glad M is ok that black at the back of his leg will probably never go it’s been so long .Praying for you .💕💕
😂😂. Be careful with the dizziness, have you been checked for CFS. Hun I’ve got haematoma on my forehead fractured cheek and jaw, fractured and shattered elbow, with a plate, so please, please get checked out for CFS.
The CFS causes bad dizziness and falls, your brain just doesn’t cope, then comes the muscle waste yuck, it’s no fun 🥰❤️
Darling I have been diagnosed with it since I was twenty ,you Are you talking about Chronic fatigue syndrome .I fell recently my face was a mess hurt hand knee .We are a mess I’m thinking 🤣 I think you are in a worse position than i because I’m able to walk but I have got scared about falling .🥰🥰
yes chronic fatigue syndrome, bless, I didn’t have it that early 😳. We are a mess, so sorry you had a fall, and hurt your face ,knee and hard, it does get scary. I recently had a pain psychologist help me to try and trick my brain, it’s a bit like CBT, but basically you keep telling yourself I’m not dizzy, my eyes are focused and I can deal with light, you have to do it over and over, once you get the knack, it takes the edge off it, and the moment you feel it returning, you do the same again. I think I’m worse off as I don’t have carpet, ceramic tiles everywhere, and it always seems to be the hallway, that I kiss the floor 😂.. 🥰🥰
oh bless you that must. be scary for you . I have had quite a few falls in recent years , or as you say kiss the floor like that saying . I’m going to try and craft this morning if I can . Will try and make something . . Hope you have a good day sweetie . Love and hugs ❤️🤗❤️🤗
Ah thanks my sweet friend .It’s feeling a bit colder though .I’m feeling like I need a hot water bottle to cuddle D where are you can put kettle on please 😂🤣
Wish there were more parents like you then I wouldn't have to have fostered so many for so long. Bless you all. The three "L"s live, laugh and love vital for survival in this mad world.
Hi Blue, hopefully you are soundo 😴 you sound an amazing person it’s a shame there aren’t more parents like you. Wishing you both a speedy recovery ❤️🩹
exactly how a parent should be with their children adult or otherwise 👍it makes me so sad when they turn their backs on the very ones they should be supporting and love ❤️ They have a hard enough time feeling they aren’t themselves and other worries that people don’t have to deal with. You are a refreshing change 😁and I wish you all the very best. Happiness and contentment for the future 🤗❤️X
I totally agree, the stress and mental illness they go through is bad enough, I picked up on it from an early age, but I had to let him find his self being, and he did, and we support him all the way.
It would be lovely if every parent could be the same, but they run from the unknown, and they are scared or disgusted, I think I’ve got to know every gender name 😂, over the years with his friends. .
You sound very open minded to, and I find that very refreshing to, it’s lovely to hear this, and caring.
I know hun, but some are scared, there’s all sorts of reasons, but for the ones like us, we can help and encourage and nurture them, into what they want to be.. it’s such a shame this world isn’t more empathetic, - sympathetic to the needs and understanding of how people just need to exist.
yes, people just need to accept people as people, not sexuality /gender etc
A friend has a wee one, who since he was a toddler has loved to dress up as Disney princesses, he's 5 now and loves to wear dresses.... and it's lovely to see him being allowed to express himself so freely by both parents and his big brother xxxx
you wouldn’t think in 2022 that this would still be happening ,these children know themselves from a very young age that they are in the wrong bodies,so let’s be kind to them as it’s so stressful for them .🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🥰💕
hun, I meant to mention about you fostering, sorry I was so tired, without peeps like you, some of the kids don’t stand a chance, but amazing people like you, give them the gift of life to make something of themselves, so bless you for your kindness and ability to help these blessed children.
I hope you are coping, how are things now, silly question, but I hope you have been able to grieve and get some relief.
Bless you Blue. Fostering was great, the children were wonderful the parents on the whole very grateful but goodness some of the social workers were hard work. I know they are stressed and overworked but sometimes they were far removed from the real world. I was relieved to retire from it all.
It's been 16 months and I'm sort of into a routine now. I still miss him every day but the garden and the dogs keep me busy on the days I don't work. Life is different but I'm not the first and I won't be the last to lose a partner of a lifetime. Today would have been our wedding anniversary. Thank you for asking.
Onwards and upwards is the only way along with a little bit of humour, kindness and tolerance and the amazing supportive folk on here. Life could be much worse.
oh Sweetie I’m so sorry you lost your partner ,it’s so awful I would imagine .Happy Anniversary is this the first time without him .Don’t keep it in if you need to cry let it out sweetie .You are so positive if you ever need to offload because some days are so awful you need a listening ear just send pm and I will chat with you.Sending cyber hugs and blessing to you .🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🤗🤗🤗🥰
bless you. I lost my husband 16 months ago - sometimes it seems a lifetime ago but other times like yesterday. I’m thankful we shared our lives for 40 years😁
I know it’s ups and downs and I really feel for you ,it’s the one thing I dread too .When you have been together as long as you have it’s such a wrench .Just taking one day at a time is all you can do right now .Take care sweetie sending hugs and love🥰🤗🥰🤗
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