Can't seem to do it!

[Fibrofog]

I have realised just a moment ago,that I need some form of help.

And I know I can get on to social services and talk to them about my needs.

I have got the number,but I can't seem to make the phone call.

I think to myself I am a 45 year old woman I shouldn't need help!

And I know I do,but. .....

[Masil]

Hi honestly I know what you mean and how you feel but you've got to put your big girl pants on and do it at the end of the day it's just a phone call I'm saying this in a friendly way as someone said it to me when I was doing exactly what your doing now and I promise you will feel so much better when you have done it and got the ball rolling to get you the help and aids you need to be able to live your life the best you can as they are really nice people with your best interests at heart and will make your life so much easier for you so don't he worried or anxious just do it honey and plz let me know how you get on as I know you will feel so much better xxx keep your chin up xxx

[Fibrofog in reply to Masil]

Hi Masil thank you so much for your reply. When I have finally done it I will let you know.So nice that someone understands where I am coming from xxx

[rosewine]

Totally understand that the first step is always the hardest. Just think how life might be made so much easier if you can get the help you deserve. X

[Fibrofog in reply to rosewine]

Thank you xx

[Painny]

Don’t hesitate the contact, I have done it, they made some adjustments for me, they also wanted to remove the bath for me but I’m too weak to handle the mess for a few days.

We agreed to do it next year but what I’m trying to say is that they are so caring.

Hope all goes well. Xx

[Fibrofog in reply to Painny]

Thank you Painny I shall do it Monday. Can't till then as going out tomorrow! Xx

[Mshapp]

Everyone needs help sometimes, regardless of age and there is absolutely nothing wrong in asking for it. It very good you have recognised this. Please make the call.

[Midori]

One finger First Aid! Dial the ruddy phone, sooner you do, sooner you get help.

Cheers, Midori

[Fibrofog]

I'm going to phone on Monday and my friend is going to help me

[Cotswolds25121]

It takes courage and we too often underestimate our amount of that, that we have! I do it myself all the time and then after I’ve plucked up the courage and do whatever it is I feel so much better for it. It’s a very common feeling but I still repeat it over and over again even though I know I will feel better afterwards. I put things off for weeks if not months because I feel I can’t handle situations but invariably it’s the doing this that causes me the most agonising anxiety but once I’ve done it(almost always with the support of my daughter/mum or a friend then a whole weight is lifted off my shoulders. Your friend is there for the support you need and I’m glad to hear you are doing it on Monday. You will feel so much better afterwards 🤗🤗

[Fibrofog in reply to Cotswolds25121]

Thank you for your kind words Cotswolds25121

[Cotswolds25121 in reply to Fibrofog]

😘❤️😁it’s late and I’m tired and I thank you for replying 🤗🤗please don’t do what we all do and doubt yourself 🙏who am I to say that 😁😁we are all so similar ❤️❤️

[JayCeon]

Hope praps you've already managed to do it. But if not, the time will come.

In (on) my more social anxious days I had (have) various techniques to break the big step down into small steps.

- Waiting for a good day and time.

- Dialling without thinking.

- Maybe putting the phone "down" again.

- Maybe repeating that a few times.

- Maybe lengthening the time.

- Adding it on to an easier call, so I'm in a flow already.

- Doing a test call at a time when I know (or think) no one is there (sometimes goes wrong!)

[Fibrofog in reply to JayCeon]

Yeah haven't done it yet I'm afraid xx

[JayCeon in reply to Fibrofog]

I guessed so. Ain't easy. Friend didn't help? Can you try my ideas above?Any alternatives? (Letter, visit...) Tried a crib sheet? Can you make a molehill out of the mountain by phoning and just asking something general, like just if that person is appropriate, praps asking how they might be able to help you, but you'll be phoning back with specific questions later....

What are the worst case scenarios you're thinking of?

Is it a general problem or this specific call?

[Fibrofog in reply to JayCeon]

More general I suppose

[JayCeon in reply to Fibrofog]

Hmm.... Above can still help in the short-term. But reading books, webpages, anxiety forums for ideas plus counselling might be necessary then...

[Fibrofog in reply to JayCeon]

I have gone through a lot in my life x

[JayCeon in reply to Fibrofog]

Yeah, I can imagine, me too!

Thankfully I did find lots of helpful tools from the mantra "Face - Accept - Float - Let Time Pass" to mindfully concentrating on the Here and Now and not letting worry-"films" about the past and future influence me feeling safe. Hope you continue looking, trying, re-visiting and finally finding tools.