Butter fingers

[hitman57]

Hi every one I hope you are all doing well or as well could be , how many of you have the same as me I keep dropping things this part of it only just started for me a few days ago but so far I’ve dropped plates cups mugs my phone and a full glass of juice I just wondered if this is some thing I’ve got to get used to as it’s so annoying anyway god bless you all and keep your chin up things will get better in the end once we come out of this lock down completely

[CheetieCat]

Oh yes, I'm convinced I'm getting clumsier by the day, how my phone survives my juggling is a blinking miracle!

Beginning to feel like a big ephalump bumping & bungling my way through the day 😂😂

[Catsnoop]

Yep! One minute I have hold of something, the next minute it's juggling around in the air. I don't think it's lack of a good grip, I think I get a kind of quick arm spasm or something.

[sesorenotseht]

Snap

[Cat00]

I was going to post something similar, I was going to ask how many drops a day was normal. It's ridiculous atm for me.

[Kitten-whiskers]

I do not get that, is that something else to look forward to?

Hope it improves whatever the cause : >

[Lexapug]

Yep I am butter fingers due to the pain. I dropped my laptop 😓 and broke it the other weekend, due to it being to heavy for my hands.

[Welshcatlady]

Yes, I seem to be clumsier and clumsier these days, forever dropping things.

Also my hand eye coordination is totally shot. I am always misjudging gaps between objects and knock things into others when I think I have plenty of space. Like knocking the base of a glass full of water against something and spilling the contents.

[Mollycooper11]

I too have this. I find it worse in the morning, it's as if my fingers suddenly just let go.

[Joannesmummy]

Yes I'm experiencing this alot at the moment phone ,mugs ,plates knife and fork when eating that together with the forgetfulness. My partner just makes me feel worse about it all as he will make some derogatory comment like " oh can't remember what you losing your marbles "or if I drop my cutlery when eating it will be "didn't your parents teach you how to use a knife and fork properly"

[Catsnoop in reply to Joannesmummy]

That’s not nice to live with. Have you told your partner “walk a day in my shoes...”. I’m sorry you get that feedback, if my partner makes a joke about it (rarely) I just about cry. It’s hard enough living with this, I don’t need to be laughed at about it too.

[Joannesmummy in reply to Catsnoop]

Thank you for your reply he has to be the most unsupportive person I know. When I got my diagnosis he was more concerned about how it will affect him he will sit and watch me struggle and get nasty if I ask for help.

Last night I asked him to close the door as his smoke was coming in the house and setting my asthma off he just said oh it's not coming in the house your putting it on hence I have been awake all night wheezing now im sitting here nodding off too tired to do anything

[Catsnoop in reply to Joannesmummy]

I was married to a man for 23 years. I was healthy when we met and I just didn’t understand the pain (and other symptoms). He tried I think, but was very unsupportive. He didn’t help with anything and just ended up leaving me at home while he went out hunting, socialising, everything really. He even went hunting for the weekend on the day after I had surgery, multiple times. I finally left him and it was scary for me at the time but the best thing I ever did. My new partner is 100% supportive and there for me all the time (apart from the odd misjudged joke). The flares haven’t stopped but I feel so much better having that support, and don’t feel alone anymore. I felt better off when alone too. No one wants an unsupportive partner.

[CheetieCat in reply to Joannesmummy]

You should let him know what you will always remember is how his cruel mocking makes you feel and didn't his parents teach him any manners!

Always feel the ability to laugh to laugh at ourselves when we drop, throw, forget makes life so much easier but having someone berate us for it must be so difficult, really think you need to let him know how this affects you.

[Joannesmummy in reply to CheetieCat]

Thanks for your reply he doesn't care how he makes me feel . I do laugh at myself most of the time like if I break a mug I will just say oh well never liked that one anyway. I do get very frustrated dropping things but then that is how I deal with it a good old cry never hurt anyone ☺

[CheetieCat in reply to Joannesmummy]

Absolutely agree! Any luck the next thing you drop lands very heavily on him (only joking). 😂😂

[Nanie75 in reply to Joannesmummy]

Is he trying to lighten the moment perhaps? Trying to bring humour in? You know him best . If it were my partner Id be v p****ed off. Is he fed up because your being unwell means he gets less attention? Men are funny animals when it comes to attention loss.

None of us- especially my cat- handle that one very well.

You can get cutlery that you can attach- but I wouldn’t know where- it might give you a bit of confidence?

Do everything you can to cherish yourself and support what you need to help you feel safer Joanne’s mummy.

[Joannesmummy in reply to Nanie75]

Thank you. he's just not capable of dealing with my declining health I have given him several opportunities to leave I have said he either starts helping and supporting me or I will make the decision about the future he thinks I'm joking .

How he is behaving is adding to the stress and I don't need it at this moment in time .

😊X

[Blossom23]

Hi

Yes I drop things constantly but now when I try to pick them up I lose my balance and fall. Thank heavens for my clutchy stick As I call it . I also have a long stick with a magnet on . I’ve knocked myself out a couple of times . I feel so clumsy and stupid . My doctor did say the other day it could be due to some medication I have . I spoke to the pharmacist at our surgery and she thinks it could be duluxatine I’ve started cutting them down early days yet . Try looking at your medication. There are so many different problems with fibromyalgia it’s a viscous circle .

[Lexapug]

I am glad I am not the only one who nood off to sleep then🤣🤣🤣.

[Nanie75]

Hi hitman57

You had me at ‘dropping’ things. Not a day goes by without a clatter or a bump as I misjudge distance between furniture or open cupboard doors. My head comes out of it the worst. I’ve only lived in my house 40 years- you’d think by now I’d know the spacing.

Can you still grip with your hands? I’ve had to get a special top opener as I just don’t have the grip any more. And pains of arthritis don’t help. I wear a support bandage which helps a bit, and covers up the bruises from the near misses.

Very best wishes hope you get it checked out soon.