Support

[Rita1404]

I feel I'm there for others but don't get back support from family

do others feel the same

[leonard30]

I do not get support from family and I have lost a lot of friends who do not belive me but I have one very good friend who dos support me in every way and I also support her the same way only her illness is not like ours it is more complete but we are there for each other

[Rita1404 in reply to leonard30]

That good Lenoard30. I'm blessed i also have a small group of friends who provide valuable support

[YASMINTINA FMA UK Volunteer]

Hello there, I get what you are saying , you feel like your always supporting people/family but when us fibro folk have bad days/weeks people just carry on and do not give back. I think a lot of us have experienced this one way or another. I am lucky I have a few girlfriends who are brilliant with me, I say a few when you find the good ones hold on to them. What’s the saying you can choose your friends not your family. I think it does hurt more if family as you feel they are the ones that should be in tune and if the boot was on the other foot say , how would they feel if you walked away, does not hurt for them to hear this sometimes.

[Rita1404 in reply to YASMINTINA]

Yeah I do have friends who are more supportive than family

Where are you in on the UK

[YASMINTINA FMA UK Volunteer in reply to Rita1404]

Outskirts of Ipswich Suffolk , really like it and lovely coastline , where are you

[Rita1404 in reply to YASMINTINA]

Glasgow. What's it like at your bit??? Yasmintina hope you're well

[YASMINTINA FMA UK Volunteer in reply to Rita1404]

Horrid here this morning fairly cold properly rain, not encouraging me too get up lol. I have never been to Scotland . Yes not bad Thankyou

[Rita1404 in reply to YASMINTINA]

Yeah it's not been good weather wise here also. Which means pain increase give me the sun

Hope you have a pain free and chilled day

[Nevergiveup123]

Hiya I feel the same. People stop asking I find I don't no if this happens too other people with different long term illness.it can feel very lonely and hurtful .I wish I new the answer but no how you feel x

[Rita1404]

I know n cos I try n hide the pain by doing every day things I think people don't believe it it's horrible

Hope you're well

[brightnbreezy]

Strange you should say that - I have found similar. Friends and acquaintances at least make the right noises of understanding, even if one senses they're struggling to do so. However, family seem to brush ones experience aside more, and expect one to keep up with the usual pace of life. Perhaps the old adage that 'familiarity breeds contempt' has something to do with it. I love being with friends for this reason, where we often laugh a lot. Perhaps one just has to find happiness where it actually is. Hugs to you.

[Rita1404]

Yep, my friends have been great n help with the silly things.

I don't have to hide if I'm having a less productive day n they will help with boosting confidence

Have a good day

[Time1970]

One of the greatest gifts to yourself is realizing people do, as they know. With the exception of an empath, people do not know how to handle trauma in another. Until they know it themselves. Don't be disappointed if not finding support in your family. Support is out there. Just not whete you would expect it.

[Rita1404]

I'm not didn't expect any different to be honest. Hope you're doing well n thanks for response.

I have good support from colleagues x