Cognitive behavioural therapy

[khaleeseebrown1]

I had some lovely advice a week ago about antidepressants and fibro wondering if any of you have tried CBT . I have managed to get myself on a course in September they say it can help with chronic pain as well as the abuse I received with my ex husband .

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That's great news!I was abused to.did you stop him from blackmailing and bullying you?any help from cab in community center?

[khaleeseebrown1 in reply to Hidden]

Had another letter saying if I didn't sign she was taken me to court I lost my temper phoned her too her the reason why I signed because he blackmailed me and if I could afford to go back to court I would also pay for a backdated valuation where he assesses the house was worth before he ran it down . But that would be throwing good money after bad just to get back at him I think solicitor have had enough money out of me for divorce I have signed the land registry over to him and his sol now has the paperwork so won't be hearing from any of them again and I think I will be better doing that . I'm hoping this cognitive behavioural therapy will give me help with dealing with the feelings he makes me have and some control over my life . Xxxx

[westcountry in reply to khaleeseebrown1]

If it's any help I read an article by Katie Piper (who was acid attacked) which went along these lines...about control: You can't control the actions of other people but you CAN control how you react to the situation. So you can choose the reaction you take to make it better for you! There are a few nasty people that we all encounter in life but this is how I try and deal with them. I'm also on the list for CBT...positive, positive, positive! Good luck with it.

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What's CBT again?

[khaleeseebrown1 in reply to Hidden]

Cognitive behavioural therapy

[Sandcastle27]

Hi, I'm going through CBT now. So far no help with pain or sleep but I do think it will be helpful in the long run with general mood and anxiety and learning to get past the traumatic events that many of us seem to have suffered. I was offered antidepressants but declined, just my personal preference not to take them. I've only had maybe 4 sessions so far so may yet see some other benefit. It can't hurt right?

[khaleeseebrown1 in reply to Sandcastle27]

I was able to wean myself off antidepressants but the shit with my ex started again and I went downhill pretty damn fast I'm back on them the nightmares have stopped or I just don't remember them lol but I'm back on the pills and will try again later hoping the CBT will help me get my act together

[Sandcastle27 in reply to khaleeseebrown1]

I'm sure it will and best to take the pills for a while until you get a handle on things. No need to suffer more than you have to. Hope it works out for you 😊

[Annienjoe]

I had CBT a few years ago, my diagnosis is SLE, but I didn't know that then. I found the CBT a great help: it doesn't fix anything it just makes it possible to understand that we can change the way we think about the stuff that affects us.

[khaleeseebrown1 in reply to Annienjoe]

Thank you I'm hoping it will do same for me

[MsJ1]

Hello there, I have Fibromyalgia amongst other things. I have found CBT useful in acceptance around the situation and how I can help myself, very useful. A lot of the time other people can't help, we have to do it ourselves and CBT for me, gave me 'tools' to do that. Give it your all because your worth it! Best wishes x

[khaleeseebrown1 in reply to MsJ1]

Thank you yes I will try anything to be in control sick of this pain controlling me

[westcountry in reply to khaleeseebrown1]

I also went to a new remedial massage therapist yesterday as I'm also sick of pain and body problems controlling me. She was a revelation and spent half hour longer explaining things. Basically she thinks I've had many years of putting my body through stress re job, deaths etc....that my body has turned on itself to give me all these problems. She said when you focus your brain on the pain (hard not to do!) then it reinforces the message to make it worse...a vicious circle! She said instead focus on something else. Sounds like a long job to reverse years of awfulness but worth a try. She recommended a book: Heal your body by Louise Jay. I'm starting to read it now...

[khaleeseebrown1 in reply to westcountry]

Thank you good luck hope the book works

[nedd]

Sometimes it depends on our expectations.

Ask them the question. How will it help with chronic pain? To make sure you are singing from the same hymn sheet. You might be better to park the pain to start and work on the abuse. To be honest to get a therapist that even knows the difference between acute and crhonic pain is like finding a needle in a hay stack.

As others have said. It can help with mood and anxiety. But has to be practiced until it becomes ingrained. But nothing ventured nothing gained.

Good luck.

[khaleeseebrown1 in reply to nedd]

This is advertised as a NHS course it's free and it's local to me had a chat with the organisers over phone to see if I could attend they said yes and it won't hurt to try it . Like you say nothing ventured I will let everyone know if it does help ,up until a month ago mindfulness was a help , again has to be practiced and you need to donate some quiet time for yourself , hard when you have family and work commitments , hate feeling so useless and in constant pain I'm willing to do anything to be in control not being controlled. Thanks for you insight. Xxxx carol