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Exhausted. Shattered, emotional the 3 words that is how I’m feeling right now. How am I even going to get past all this. I’m to exhausted to move and to deal with it. Even my manger been ringing me and wants to know how I am. What do I even say to her. 💔😭😴

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Peanut5856 years ago

💐 sorry for all you going through. Gentle hugs x

Miss686 years ago

Oh bless you hun, please accept my sincere heartfelt condolences on the loss of your beautiful baby. I can’t even begin to imagine what you’re going through. Take each day one at a time. We’re all here for you and feel free to talk, scream, rant or whatever you want to. Please take care of yourself and lots of love and gentle hugs to you xx🤗🤗😘

Hayley956 years ago

What do I even tell my

Manager about this. I could lose my job xx

waylay• in reply toHayley956 years ago

Tell your manager that you lost your lovely child. If you can't say it to her, ask someone else to do so. If she's a human being, she'll understand.

honeybug6 years ago

Sweet Hayley95

You are in my thoughts and prayers dear. When your boss rings you and you are up to it just let exactly what you feel come out to her. It may do you good to release what’s bottled up inside right now.

There are no words that can really comfort you at the moment but I do send you my consoling love dear.

My heart is so broken for you that it is difficult to see through my tears to write this.

Take care sweetie.

😊🌸🌿🦋🤗🤗💙💔❤️xxx

Mdaisy6 years ago

Good Morning Hayley95

I think you'll find that all these emotions are normal and that grief can/will effect everyone differently. How is Jack coping? The process will take it's time and you'll need lots of support around you both.

Try not to worryabout work and ask someone to telephone to explain the situation so you don't have to face that problem. If you need help at all at a later date the FMAUK Benefits Advisor can talk about work related issues. For now you need to look after yourself, take all the time you need and not worry about anything else. We on the community are always happy to listen but I think as this is such a devastating situation that you need to speak with the medical team about ongoing support including bereavement charities.

cruse.org.uk/

lullabytrust.org.uk/bereave...

Also if you ever need to have a good cry to a listening ear then Samaritans are available to talk to 24/7. 116 123 (UK)

116 123 (ROI)

samaritans.org/how-we-can-h...

Try to rest and draw upon family & friends support at this difficult time - forget about work etc you need to look after yourself first and foremost. Again, I am so sorry for your loss and I cannot even imagine what it is like to lose a child - a living nightmare I expect and I am thinking of you all right now.

I wish I could do or say more but words don't seem to be of comfort - we are here for you to talk though if you need to.

Emma x

Kitten-kat236 years ago

Sweetheart, you need time. Your hormones are everywhere, you are exhausted and emotional. Tell people how you feel. The worst thing you can do is keep it shut inside. You need to grieve. My heart is breaking for you. My condolences to you and your partner. Hugs

Hayley956 years ago

😭😭😭💔💔💔💔

M0AL61ModeratorVolunteer6 years ago

Hayley, try not to worry about work. Your boss can't sack you because of this.

Can you ask some of the nursing staff to ring your boss and explain what has happened? I'm sure they'd be happy to help. Also, the hospital will have a duty social worker there, who will be able to help you too. Don't be afraid to reach out and ask for these services xxx

electricjaws6 years ago

I agree , you cannot be sacked because of this , your boss would have to be totally heartless

So sorry for your loss , I would just tell people the truth how you feel , definitely don't put on a stiff upper lip , why the hell should you!

It isn't like you are trying to get over having a cold

I send you lots of love and a gentle hug x

Bemoresquirrel6 years ago

Hang in there Hayley, be gentle with yourself. You don’t need to try and be brave when you’re heartbroken.

Like electricjaws and others have said, just text your boss & tell it as it is. The emoji you’ve used on this post speak volumes, so keep the words short & add the emoji.

Gentle hugs xx

Stevejj6 years ago

Hayley I can’t imagine how heart breaking it must be for you and your partner and families. Work cannot do anything to you about this at present. Tell them how it is as others have voiced. Also you should have a maternity policy to deal with situations like this that they will have to adhere to by law. Big hugs to you and all your family my heart goes out to you all xx

Kitten-whiskers6 years ago

Sweetie, you have been through so much, please put work at the back of your mind. I agree with everyone else, they can not sack you. I can not imagine what your going through but you must put yourself/your husband first and allow time to grieve and heal.

We are all here for you xx

waylay6 years ago

So sorry Hayley. I can't even imagine how you're feeling. We're here though. You have our love and support.

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