Apollagies for being sick

[Neonking]

Any body find away that they no longer apologise for being sick.

[rosewine]

It is easy to think somehow it is our fault and we are a burden to others. I really felt that initially as I have always been a very independent type of person but realised I didn't deliberate become sick and are now grateful if people offer help.x

[cespinosa]

I don't apologize, I seen how ms affected my mother and her struggle. My father and I couldn't do enough for her. I'm still able to prepare a meal and laundry or tidy up takes all-day. But I don't apologize for fibro. My son only child is very understanding.

[Neonking]

Thanks for the replies guys.

I feel like I am required to apologise multiple times a day or need to make excuses because if my health.

And as I get older it’s only getting worse.

Had a member of my family call me a bitter old man.

I felt sick sore and tired. relatives wanted to visit . I have no ill will for the relatives. But I’m half the soul I was last time we met. But TBH I just feel like death warmed up so not in the frame of mind for chit chat etc!

So simply said I was unwell.

Followed by sorry I feel so unwell.

Followed by sorry but I’m in bed.

Sorry trying sleep.

So how do you do it .

Stop all contact with the outside world?

Explain over and over that you have an illness and this is what it’s like to be sick.

Find the energy when your so exhausted that even sleeping causes you to be neuasiated to deal with day to day matters?

[Fallabella]

Hi Neonking, I'm constantly apologising to everyone. I know I do it too much but I feel guilty when I have to ask for help or when some poor person has to push me uphill in my wheelchair etc (usually my OH).

It's not our fault we became ill but I think it's common for us to feel guilty about our lack of independence. My husband often says "did you ask for it or buy it from a shop?" When I reply "no" he says that's that then, no apology needed.

I too find social gatherings difficult. Once the fibro fog sets in I can't make sense of conversation. I try so hard but find my eyes wandering away from who ever I'm 'talking' to and they think I'm not interested. I hate it when this happens, particularly when my speech becomes affected. I feel like I'm going a tad crazy or something. I feel so self conscious about it. For me it's one of the worst parts of fibro.

Lots of hugs xxx

[joed]

i feel your pain i was always very active before i became ill i have multiple disabilities plus i just had a double arthoscopy this week so im on crutches plus wheelchair i feel totally helpless and relient on others its so frustrating i loose count how many times aday i say"sorry" take care joanne x

[mysmugcat]

Yes and no At work I often feel exhausted but fake it to some people who think you're just a bit tired and they feel the same lol. I do pull out of some gatherings and apologise.