I'm just going to say aney tips for dealing with depression/abuse?

[Pandacookoe26]

I kow it's wrong but I somtimes cut that's a lie I do it almost daily I figure it's the best way to cope with my problomes aney other ideas then..what I have chosen?

[sisterblue]

Morning Pandacookie. I don't cut, but a few thoughts to improve how you feel hopefully. Antidepressants? Your probs on these already. Vit B complex, vit C, Cocoa nibs for magnesium and other benefits. Great in smoothies and cooking. Coq10 helps energy and mood. If I think of anything else I'll let you know. Oh, meditation/mindfulness. This is sooo calming. Take care. Massive HUGS and love xxx

[Ramjets]

Hi Panda, you haven't given any information about whether or not you are receiving any treatment for your depression but if not, I would urge you to seek some help as soon as possible hun. You have made a positive step by admitting that you are self-harming so I would make an appointment with your doctor to discuss how you are feeling. Also you may already be doing this but there are support groups such as Mind and Self Harm UK that can offer support and advice so you may find these helpful. Please be kind to yourself, there is help out there for you. Take care my lovely xxx

[ednu16]

I used to work with young people who self harmed to cope with various difficulties. One thing that worked universally (not the only thing we did with them) was art therapy. Anything creative really does help with our mental health. I use it when I am feeling low. I crochet, paint, draw and even get me 3 yo involved and it does help. There was an article about creativity and depression in the guardian a while back. I will see if I can find it for you. That might be a good place to start?

[Ebradley90]

i used to cut then a friend told be about the elastic band trick pull it hard and let it go when you feel the urge does the same thing and leaves no scars I did that for a few years before I realised I was the only one that could change how I felt took a lot of will power but I managed it then I ended up with fibromyalgia lol.

[BlueMermaid3]

Hi there

I imagine that it must have been very difficult for you to write this post to reach out to us.

I am so sorry, but I am not sure that we are very well equipped to deal with your issues.

Are you able to speak to your GP and let them know you are self harming?

Another option would be to get in touch with MIND the mental health charity. They are very well equipped to deal with this type of problem.

Here is their website:

mind.org.uk

Please do speak to someone about this. MIND are wonderful and highly approachable.

I wish you all the luck in the world. You've opened up to us, so please do now open up to someone who can help you better.

Wishing you much peace in your life

Lu xx

[Hidden]

Hi hun, I agree with many-get intouch with MIND or Samaritans for help, are you willing to say what "abuse" you are suffering? PM me if you don't want to display it on the forum. I have had to live with my sons post abuse from his father, he drank himself stupid but slowly I and my lovely gp (who I have registered him with) are watching and listening, he still has a binge on pay day but he doesn't drink when he has to go work so that's a big improvement.

I go by the name of Nurse Gladys Emanuel (open all hours) I am a retired nurse with fibro. OA, calcium crystal disease, my speciality was gyne & obs when I retired but over the years I adopted a lot of other areas of medicine..

[Fallabella]

Hi pandacookoe26, this isn't something I EVER talk about but I used to cut too as a teenager. Sadly I still remember the feeling of, we'll sort of, relief and release when the blood began to flow. At the time I didn't even know I was depressed. I think I was taking the 'blame' for things I had no control over and I could control when I bled.

I managed to stop by changing my idea of control and blame. I began to control not cutting. I can't say it was easy but I got there.

No idea if this can even go anywhere close to helping but I deeply hope it can.

I'm sending you my most heartfelt hugs my lovie. I know it's not easy and there's lots to work through but we all care about you and I hope, like me, you can get there too. Xxx🌷💜.

[naturalnikki]

I am very sorry you find yourself here. I used to, it was a very self punishing OCD type thing for me, not going to get into that. Anyways.

I tried going to a few self injury meetings, but i didn't feel like i belonged or they didn't help me anyways. As talking about it really didn't help me. I know it helped others, and if it does you then please try a meeting, if there are some in your area.

After realizing self harm wasnt helping me, i stopped. It was kind of hard at first but i felt guilty after every incident, so it stopped being a release for me.

I started analyzing my understanding of my life and what it was that i was hiding from myself, as i couldn't see my issues as i was in denial.

I cried about everything and nothing, i cried until i figured out why i was crying, then i cried till i couldnt cry anymore, then i cried more.

I still am dealing with my issues, though i am A LOT better and in a much much better place.

I still cry sometimes and have to figure out why and usually it is rooted in my main issue. (Family, just to reduce it down and the affects they had on me growing up and even things they do nowaffect me more than they should)

I had to forgive myself and others, i still have to forgive myself and try to not judge every move i make.

I study psychology and philosophy like crazy to understand myself and those i love better. It had really helped me a lot.

I do hope you can find an escape from this.

My depression or whatever the darkness that has burrowed into my brain is, is not always easy to deal with but if i acknowledge it and process whatever it is showing me then i loosen its grip, even if it is only slightly.

Take care of yourself××

Ps i am not a medical professional and I'm sure some people would disagree, but for me, excepting what was and is, and that i Couldnot change it or control anyone else to change the present and future. I figured out what my idea of happy is and what i could do to achieve that and started taking tiny steps in those directions, as with me only tiny steps were effective. I am still working on myself but this is what helped me. Though it may not help everyone.

[MariLiz]

Counselling helped me during a very dark time, it was available through the GP surgery. Not sure if the recent cutbacks might rule it out now? It's definitely worth asking though.