I feel for everyone toting this dreadful illness. I was diagnosed at 30 and osteo arthritis was a second diagnosis at the same time. Stress does not help, but the foggiest memory creates stress. When you've always been sharp and then things change for the worse, it is hard to embrace. I was hit as a pedestrian 3 years ago by an SUV and after two foot surgeries and elbow surgery, my fibromyalgia has been non-stop . One thing I must say is the hydrotherapy is very helpful and keeping your inner core warm is important. Neurontin and Robaxin are good. One is an anti convulsant used for neuropathy pain, and the other is a muscle relaxer. Strong faith is helpful because even though the flare ups are dreadfully dibilitating, time will come when a bit of relief is felt. I would love to know what is the best way to cope with the heavy arms and aching that radiates all the way to your hands. Opening jars and mixing up simple things is a huge painful task. 17 years ago my rheumatologist diagnosed me, and it's difficult to remember all of the ways to handle the flare ups and just day to day pain . We are in this together and support is so important, because there is no cure and over the past 17 years Drs do understand more, but the patients cope together with the mysterious symptoms of this illness of over active nerve endings.. I would love to hear anyone's story, because we can learn from each other. Be blessed and stay strong everyone.