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Well I just wanted to write that my depression is getting worse . I'm still struggling to finish two more shifts so I can go on my sickleave . Every time I think it's almost over I find out that they screwed up my hours and gave me the wrong number to qualify . so I have to boost my moral to go in to work. My doctor thinks I shouldn't work, but she also won't pay my bills, so I have to do what I have to do.

I didn't sleep a wink last night stressing about my job. This morning even hurt to take a shower. The water never felt the right temperature and even the feeling of water hitting my back made me cringe with pain .

I just want this to be over

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bluebell99

I hope you will be able to rest and regain your strength very soon.

Sending soft hugs

X

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looking4me in reply to bluebell99

Thank you

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Kitten-kat23

I am so sorry. I hope you get it sorted soon.

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looking4me in reply to Kitten-kat23

Thanks, a lot

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ryanbone10

Get something in writing looking4me , they are just messing you about!

No wonder your so sore, this added stress is making your pain much worse.

How on earth do they expect you to do normal duties when your feeling so low.

They have a duty of care to you and all the patients you help care for?

Compassion!! what compassion? They're showing nothing but incompatence!

Sorry my friend, but this kind of treatment towards their own caring profession, seems to mean nothing. They are simply treating you only as a number!!

Look for another job if you can, whils't on sick leave, as personally I think you deserve much much better :) xx

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looking4me in reply to ryanbone10

trust me I would not return as a nurse. It's not easy to care for people when you can't care for yourself. I thank you, it's almost over though:). I have trying to find other work for years. But my attendance hadn't been great, so references aren't easy either. It's a bummer.

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ryanbone10 in reply to looking4me

I wish you the very best my friend, in whatever you decide to do!

Pls take good care xxx

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neesey1005

hang on in there x

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Lou1062

I don't understand how this works, you are clearly very unwell you shouldn't have to fulfil certain hours to take sick leave, all best wishes xxx

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looking4me in reply to Lou1062

To qualify for regular unemployment SICK benefits in Canada I need to have worked a certain number of hours within 52 weeks.

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peck

Hi looking4me , Sorry to hear your feeling depressed as I battle with it as well. I have been disabled since 2001, and there's no way I could work.I wish you best in getting all this taken care of so you can get in your leave and let your mind rest.Im always here if you need to chat. Take care and let us know how you get along. Peck.🐤

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TheAuthor

Hi looking4me

I really am so genuinely sorry to read this my friend, and I sincerely hope that everything works out okay for you. I want to sincerely wish you all the best of luck, and please take care of yourself my friend.

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken

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looking4me in reply to TheAuthor

It would be great if I could stay home and look after myself better. That would be a dream.

Funny how our goals changes when ill sometimes . Thank you

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TheAuthor in reply to looking4me

Good luck my friend.

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Sue1955

Hi looking4me

So sorry to hear how you are struggling, I am in the U.K. So don't understand Canada's rules, but what I will tell you is I too continued to work beyond when I should have called it a day . Finally the dr told me I had to stop as I was making myself worse, once I did give up with no choice I suddenly took less medication and started to cope better without that added work pressure, it wasn't easy money wise but I got sorted eventually.. With hindsight I really wish I had given up sooner when dr first suggested it, like you I told myself I had to carry on this was a mistake. So try and see what you can work out to take the pressure off, I wish you well and hope you get the time you need to look after yourself.

Sue

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looking4me

Thank you all for your kind words. I believe I'm going to do my last shift tonight. Then I can start healing. This will at least give me my ao e income. It's taken me a long time to finish my shifts, as I'm always sick. What will be the outcome with long term disability, I have no idea. But I will hope for the best.

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Smiler69

Take care . Look after yourself.

Jane x

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looking4me in reply to Smiler69

Thanks Jane. Hope all is well with you.

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