about my daughter

[angelbubble1]

so my, daughter at school is being called skinny... she comes crying home everyday shes 13 and weighs 47kg... i really worry... how do i make this stop for her?

[Hollie121]

Hi my daughters 15 and she had the same problem only she was called far said I would speak to the head but she said it would make it worse but I went ahead any way better to nip it in the bud speak to school see what they can do it did help in my daughters case children are so cruel good luck

[TheHud]

My sis always had that problem. My mum always told her to stand up tall (she was only 5'1") and say. One day you will wish you were this skinny Being called skinny is not an insult tell her they are just jealous, my mums and my favourite saying.

They are just jealous because you are;

slim

pretty

loved

clever

you have to feel sorry for them

Say it often enough to your children and they really do believe you. being skinny she should be very grateful tell her. My sister only has to cut out the mars bars to lose weight. She was so thin she looked like a twig that would snap but she is very glad she was now.

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Morning tell her not to listen to narow minded people kids can be holible tel her she is beta than them n the obvis sumit wrong in there lives to be concered bout hers i used to get bullied but in end i fought back and no1 came near me in end but u cant do that nowadays kids can be evil sumtimes the really can but chin up n try not stree X

[TheHud]

You can also add that my niece is 13 and less than 6stone in weight (39kg) and like her mum she is a racing snake who unlike her mum is amazing at all sports she does, cross country, badmington, gymnastics and currently she has taken to sking like a duck to water, she can also swim faster than all her friends who are all much taller and, erm shall we say more 'built' She relishes in her skinnyness and all the sport she can do because of it

[Kitten-kat23]

Sorry your daughter is going through this. I have no answer for you, but I was that girl in school , so I can empathise with your daughter. Unfortunately when I was at school we didn't have the support you can get today, I can only suggest that if there is a understanding teacher at her school , that you could perhaps bring this to their attention.

[rosewine]

I was the same at school and as my maiden name was a bit unusual I was called clothesline, if you step on a drain you will fall through the crack, etc etc. It cuts you to the quick especially as at the time I was painfully shy and had no confidence.

My mother just told me to ignore them and say nothing as if they don't get " a rise" from you they will soon become bored. She also said it is because they are jealous of your slim athletic figure and bullies are actually people who are scared stiff inside and try to cover this up by being bullies as they are frightened of being bullies themselves if they don't. She wouldn't help me other wise which at the time I was bitterly disappointed with but it sure toughened me up.

Do try and build her self confidence up and encourage her to get involved on school activities that she is good at or really likes or classes outside the school as she will then hopefully get her own circle of loyal friends as bullies tend to target loners, I was an only child.

Do hope things improve as it is a horrible, isolating feeling. If things are really getting out of hand I think you must have a word with her teacher as schools should have strict policies on this unlike when I was growing up.

Give her a hug from us.x

[TheAuthor]

Hi angelbubble1

I am so genuinely sorry to read this and I sincerely hope that both you and your daughter can find some resolution to this issue. Children can be so cruel without even thinking about it I am so sorry to say.

I would just give her lots of love and support and hopefully in time this will pass. it may help to take her to the doctors, as she could have a deficiency in something that is inhibiting her from gaining weight?

I want to genuinely and sincerely wish you both all the best of luck.

All my hopes and dreams for both of you

Ken

[Regnofibro1]

I wish I could help! My daughter at 16 weighed 76 pounds and stood maybe 4'p. At 21 she stood 5'9 and wore size 00. Now after 2 kids and looking at 30 she finally wears a size 1 and weights 107. She is tall and skinny ..she can and does eat. She has always preferred healthy food. When she was younger oh yes me and child services got to know each other. She was very tiny actually littlest in her class. She just never has got very big. That being said I have a aunt that is 102 and is just now into size 3 and weighted 112. Some people just don't get very big. I will say that her and my daughter have a very big personality!!! I use to tell my daughter she may not be very big but let them see a big personality!! That way they will think you are bigger than you are.