At my wits end!

Hi There

My partner has been suffering random symptoms since the summer, he is a health fanatic and usually super fit, but all of a sudden is having debilitating symtoms that are ruling his life. He has been off work for 3 months now which is adding to his declining emotional state.

After looking up FM I'm convinced he has this, but I know it's hard to get a diagnosis. Has anyone got any advice on how to get this diagnosed please?

6 Replies

  • HI the first thing he needs to do is go and see his doctor. Please never assume what he may be feeling is Fibro as these symptoms can mimic so many illnesses some quiet serious. Please Get your partner to see his doctor this way blood tests can be done and only the doctor can rule things out. I will keep you both in my thoughts and hope your partners can find some answers soon.


  • I agree! Time to see a doctor! If possible maybe see neurologist .

  • I am so genuinely sorry to read that he is suffering and struggling so much and I totally agree with your other respondents as it is time to get him to the doctors. As they suggest it could be Fibro but it could also be many other medical conditions so he needs some tests undertaking. Sadly, a diagnosis of Fibro usually comes after other medical conditions are ruled out of the equation.

    I have also pasted you a link to our mother site, FMA UK which hosts loads of useful Fibro information:

    I want to gneuinely and sincerely wish you both all the best of luck.

    All my hopes and dreams for you


  • Hi Toni,

    Surely he's seen a doctor in the past 3 months, & had blood tests etc?

    Without testing for deficiencies such as B12, D etc, or whether he has a viral infection, or something more insidious, it's just guessing.

    Good luck getting help!


  • He needs to get blood tests to rule out other things, thyroid , B12, low iron ( anaemia) etc... If he has seen a doctor, then the GP should be referring him to specialists for diagnosis. My Fibro was diagnosed by a rheumatologist, but only after ruling out other illnesses. Best wishes to you both MariLiz

  • Hello,

    I agree with previous writers.

    There is a long way to go before a diagnosis for anything.

    Seeing his GP and chatting through the symptoms should help.

    There is always two elements to consider when dealing with ill health that lasts for a while - mental health as well as physical health.

    It may be the case that your husband is experiencing low mood and frustration due to his health. This needs to be discussed with the GP as well.

    Just as importantly, your feelings need to be considered as well. It is important that you have a support network for support.

    I hope that it turns out to be nothing serious or long lasting.

    Best wishes,


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