Mother-in-law depressed

[Edumath]

Hey guys!

Nice to meet this group.(PS: sorry for my poor english) I liked very much how you work hard to make the life of people who have Fibromyalgia better.

Unfortunately, my mother-in-law has suffered now many years because this disease and she is turning into depression now, after her daughters were diagnosed with cancer and other very troubled diseases. Stress is too high for her.

Need your help to discover what can I do to possibly turn her life better, and maybe also take her out of bed (she doesnt get out of bed for 4 straight days now :/)

Thank you! Hope you all can manage your pain and stress. Bye

[TheAuthor]

Hi Edumath

I sincerely hope that you are feeling as well as you possibly can be today? Welcome to the forum and I sincerely hope that you find it useful, informative and loads of fun! I have pasted you a link below to our mother site, Fibromyalgia Action UK which hosts loads of useful Fibro information:

Fibromyalgia Action UK Website:

fmauk.org/

I am so genuinely sorry to read how your mother in law is suffering and struggling due to her Fibro and the awful illnesses that her daughters have. It may be beneficial to take her to the doctors and explain how she is feeling as if the doctor feels she is suffering from depression they may be able to give her antidepressants for this? Also, they may be able to refer her for counselling?

I want to genuinely and sincerely wish you and your family all the best of luck in finding the answers that you are looking for.

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken

[landslider]

Oh gosh, that is so awful. I went through a depression myself a few years ago - think it was actually the beginnings of Fibro as it began with complete and constant lethargy.

I did not want to speak to anybody - I hid from the postman in case I had to say good morning, shut myself off from everybody - refused all offers of going anywhere in case I had to make conversation with people as I felt I had nothing to say.

Don't think i got dressed for weeks. I was off work for about 6 months.

For me it was accepting that I needed to take some tablets for a while and then I decided on a complete change of lifestyle. I changed jobs, joined a mountaineering club and started to go for long walks, met lots of normal people who enjoyed the simple pleasures of the outdoors, nice food and pleasant conversation.

You can drop her a few hints but I really think it has to come from within - talk about her daughters perhaps and how she can help them, what she can do to make life better for them and try to forget about her sadness.

Is there something she has enjoyed in the past or maybe not done because she had children - I always wanted to travel but my kids came first.

The fibro is very hard but you have to fight the best way you can whether its even a jigsaw or crochet or art or music - absolutely anything - but she has to want it.

All you can really is be there when she has decided she does want it to help her along the way - and listen - if she doesn't want to talk that is fine - just continue to be caring and let her know you are there - when she is ready she will let you know xxx

Like Ken has said try to persuade her to visit the GP - like i was told when I refused the tablets - would you refuse if you had diabetes ??? It is the same principle - chemicals are out of balance and need a little help to get back in balance xxx

[Betty67]

Oh dear, this must be very hard for your mother in law but she is very lucky to have you in her family.

She may need professional help if she is not listening to family. Gentle hug to you.

[Thankful]

I have found acupuncture has helped me with my Fibromyaglia but with an experienced acupuncturist. Mine is with a lady in our town who is a TCM and Acupuncturist. We chat a lot while she is doing the treatment. Maybe this sort of thing would help your Mother in Law. Just maybe there is someone who you think she could relate to who understands your Mother in Laws culture. Talking therapy is the best way out of depression.

I hope this helps. xx

[Fibrofoggiest]

What a lovely kind caring person you are to be trying to find help for your mother in law, she is very blessed to have you !!😊

I think the others have given a lot of good advice, your poor mother in law has had a lot to handle on top of the fibro, and as such I understand why she has sunk into depression. I wonder if she is already on medication to help her depression, if not it might be worth speaking to her to check and if not, suggest that she rings her GP and asks for some help in that direction.

I had a very bad spell of depression at the end of last year and I found colouring was very soothing, and eventually it absorbed me so much that the things which were causing my depression were able to be forgotten about, even for a short time. Gradually I did improve, but I was on anti-depressants and having therapy as well, but the colouring was the one thing which made me able to forget my troubles. maybe you could suggest this to her along with the ideas that the others have mentioned.

I am sending very positive healing thoughts to your whole family, especially your mother in law, and some special ones too for you for being such a kind and caring person. 😊😊

Foggy x

[tulips123]

I'm sorry things are so difficult. Fibromyalgia and the pain that goes with it can be very depressing, and terrible news about the family. Your mother in law urgently needs to see a Doctor about getting medicine to help with her depression, as well as some help to get her pain under control. Best wishes for better health for all members of your family. Tulip xx

[Edumath]

I'd like to thank all foi guys for answering and dedicating your time to this. All of your tips were helpful and I'm going go use all of this to improve her lifestyle.

Thank you guys, God bless all of you!