Tough being the fighter

[PickledCookie]

I love that I am strong and will always fight my corner or anyone who is being wronged and doesn't deserve it. I fight my illness with all I've got but sometimes I get so tired of this. The stress from fighting is painful but what's the alternative?? Give in??

[rosewine]

I always say whilst there is life there is hope. I have also always been a fighter and have been on the side of anyone who was in need but not actually very pushy at all when it has come to my own welfare but I am trying to be a bit more proactive lately.

At first I absolutely raged against being ill but started over time to realise that it was actually doing me more harm than good as I was expending alot of energy that I could ill afford to use fighting whatever illness I had. I have become a little bit more accepting of it and that has actually helped in some peculiar way. I now try to spend the energy on trying to find alternative ways of doing things and getting pleasure from perhaps smaller but more manageable things in life.

I now realise we sometimes have to be gentler and less demanding of ourselves. Not accepting defeat in any way but sometimes just accepting for the time being until we or medical science makes some kind of brakthrough that this is what it is and we have to make the best of a bad job. I am not saying I always succeed as I am not that stoical but I am more realistic about what I can and can't achieve at the moment. Soft hugs going your way.x

[Julie63]

Hi PickledCookie, you sound like me - Give in? - NEVER!!!!! Good luck and gentle hugs, Julie xxxxxx 😉

[TheAuthor]

Hi PickleCookie

I am so sorry to read that you are struggling and suffering so much and I sincerely hope that you can find some resolution and relief to these issues. I think that rosewine has given you some very constructive advice that is worth heeding.

I will always say to a member that if their pain levels increase or they have a new symptom that they should always talk to their GP about it just to keep them informed on how you are doing and to get other medical conditions ruled out of the equation.

I want to genuinely wish you all the best of luck.

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken

[fenbadger]

Don't give in, but there may be a time you need to rest and regroup your resources, then come back out fighting. It's called tactical withdrawal, not retreat. When energy levels are already low it's difficult, I know. Good luck

[bluejeans16]

When I first became ill I was a mess but continued to push myself at work which obviously made things work. I work in a charity shop and the lead volunteer. My boss says she could not manage without me. I have reluctantly had to cut my hours down from 35 to 24 a week but sometimes still have to take time off because I am ill. At first I got very angry when I had to slow down as before I was always on the go. I tend to come in from work and just veg out in front of the telly. Haven't got the energy to do anything else.