lou609 years ago

Please do not leave voluntarily, you stand a better chance of assistance if you can wait. I lost one job this way and was offered retraining, retired now but happy I went with the training. Wishing you well. xx Lou

rosewine9 years ago

I am so sorry for you. I had to give up (well they gave me up) after a year off sick from a job I adored. I had always been one of those people who loved working and gave it everything I could working loads of overtime unpaid. I hinestly felt as though I had had a leg cut off when they finished me. At least in my case I was only a few years away from retirement but as I would have liked to have carried on working as long as I could it still felt like a blow especially as my husband had had to give up work the previous year because of ill health and I was the breadwinner. It is so difficult keeping up the pace when you feel so ill so don't blame yourself in any way you have tried your best. I sincerely hope that you can find something that you can do. Big hugsx

jillylin9 years ago

Hugs. I had to give up my job as I was physically unable to continue. It's hard , especially when you want to work, but sometimes not working is the best thing for you.

Gentle hugs

Jillyxx

Lruk9 years ago

LouLou, You are in a very difficult situation and one that there is little you can do to change. You don't say what job it is that you do but I would encourage you to keep working as long as you are able. Most employers make what is known as 'reasonable adjustments' to your job in light of your health problems but if you are on probation they are unlikely to do want to do so as it often costs money either through adaptations or in loss of output from you, the employee.

I also lost a job I loved due to fibro, I was a support for learning teacher and I absolutely loved my job. I was devastated when they mentioned medical retirement but I have made the adjustment fairly well, mainly because I knew that I couldn't physically do the job any more.

I would suggest a visit to your local citizens advice bureau as they may be able to give you information as to what your rights are as an employee and what your employer has to do to support you. Good luck, Linda.

Shadows-walker9 years ago

I am so sorry ,what ever you do don't resign carry on as best you can and do contact cab , if you leave you won't get any help ,so let them follow there procedures ,don't make it easy for them and try not to get to stressed I lost my job due to ill health in July ,it will work out I followed all the advice I was given on here to the letter ,talk to your GP explaine what's happening at work ,and get on to the cab as quick as you can they can get the ball rolling on support for you, if your having problems copeing at home social services can help with equipement and possible help in the house speak to cab about pip which is the version of incapacity benifit ,but don't fill it out your self get cab to do it they fill out these forms in a way that we can't, and always answer your worse day symptoms ,

Please try not to fret I know it arwful but you have to put you first and talk to the friends you make here everybody will try to help if they can take care keep us posted but please don't be bullied out hold your ground as gently as you can and I do know it's easy to say but try not to worry I was and it didn't change anything and I am ok I get ESA and housing benifit it's not a huge amount of money but when I get my pip I now I will be ok and you will to take care xx Chris

TheAuthor9 years ago

Hi LoulouHilton

I am so sorry to read that you are going to lose your employment, and I genuinely hope that you can ascertain another opportunity that you find satisfying and meaningful. I have pasted you a couple of links below to disability benefits that I would advise you to try and claim:

ESA is Employment Support Allowance and you could submit a claim for this once your employment has ceased. It would be really worth discussing this benefit with your local Citizens Advice Bureau, as they have people who can help with form filling and procedures:

gov.uk/employment-support-a...

The second link is for PIP Personal Independence Payment and this benefit is a tax free benefit paid out on how your disability affects your life, therefore it can be claimed regardless of whither you are in work or not. Again it would help to discuss this benefit with your local Citizens Advice Bureau

gov.uk/pip/how-to-claim

I can sincerely imagine that you are feeling quite down and despondent in regard to all of this, and I really want to say how sorry I am that you are finding yourself in this situation. I want to wish you all the best of luck for the future.

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken x

Hidden9 years ago

Hi Loulou,

I am so sorry to read about your work problems. I don't envy you your position at the minute.

Do they know that you have Fibro? You haven't said what you do, so I am assuming it is strenuous work. Is there something else you could consider?

Wishing you all the best and I hope it can be resolved.

LoulouHilton9 years ago

Thank you all for your words of comfort and support. I will be looking into the various organisations that can help. Unfortunately my job is just administration. It's in a busy relocation office so there are strict deadlines, but if I'm not quick enough at simple administration tasks, what hope do I have of doing anything else?

I feel like I'm not good enough at anything at the moment

Hidden in reply to LoulouHilton9 years ago

I feel for you as I too am going through this at the moment. I have worked for my employer for 13 years in a very stressful job with strict stats and quality. I have been to occ health and have a meeting next week with my Manager about the way forward but I think they have already made up their minds. Dont know how I am going to cope financially but havent got the energy to fight them. I am not going to volunteer to leave though asI believe DWP will give no help for 13 weeks if I resign whereas if they dismiss me, I may be able to claim ESA. One good thing may come of it I should lose weight asI dont think Ill be able to afford food. My thoughts are with you. Gentle hugs Joolz.x

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mitziblue9 years ago

You may have to go on disability. I know you don't want to but we have limits and employers don't like that fact. Hope you get the help you need sweetheart!!! xxx Mitzi

Scouser589 years ago

Hello LoulouHilton, why are you pushing yourself so hard, work will get to the point of not meeting the daily expected amount completed?, Dear heart there must some thing that you like to do for the pleasure of it, your body is telling you it cannot cope with all that going to work entails, and you now are stressing about another job, please don't do that. Is there any voluantry work that you could do?. When you have to go back to the job centre to sign back on, again take a sick note and file that with them, so that they won't start pushing you towards another job, that will make you feel so bad again, just bear this in mind the ones who are being hard, and loads of grief, have jobs that they can do, and are not in totally unwell situation that you are, look after you and your body, it's tried out and battling an illness, love yourself, ttfn