Lost my job

[Shadows-walker]

Hi everyone keep everyone in loop I lost my job due to ill health yesterday ,still a bit upset ,they say they will take me back if I get well enough ,but it's a big company so time will tell ,had a bad night and very painey today ,so on sofa with fan on

[Hidden]

Hi, sorry to hear that. My company are trying to push me out in any way they can, got medical with there drs today and feeling quite nervous.

Hope you start feeling a lot better soon x

[Shadows-walker in reply to Hidden]

I have just got off phone with job center of ESA 45 mins ,it's got to get easier ,they were really nice but you would think when your ill they had different processes , and people to help

[Lucyhobbit]

Oh I'm so sorry to hear that *gentle hugs* I lost my job, not through illness or choice, but actually its worked out really well for me, I hope it works out for you too.

[Shadows-walker in reply to Lucyhobbit]

Do you manage financially ok ? I am on my own been divorced for about 7 years have one daughter left at uni and she is off to japan for a year in September . I support my daughter myself as my ex was controlling my children keep him at a distance and won't except any help from him even when he offers as there is always strings ,even though I have tryed to get them to . I have been on phone to benifits people this afternoon ,and cab ,and am somewhat frazzled now ,I sort of knew it would happen but I really hoped it wouldn't I can't say I liked my job but it gave me indepences an I could hold my head up .

[Lucyhobbit in reply to Shadows-walker]

I'm lucky that my partner supports us, so the need to get back to work wasn't there - and now I run my own business which works well with my fibro (although is yet to be profitable) I really hope you get some financial assistance soon *even more gentle hugs* I feel bad now I should have remembered to put that I don't need to work, sorry.

[Shadows-walker in reply to Lucyhobbit]

It's ok no worries ,I was married for 25 years unfortunatly he was a rat in many ways but that's life , I will be ok x glad things have worked out for you I have been on my own for 7 years I have been asked out but I am a bit dence ,when it comes to things like that.or there to young I have a silly problem as well especially when I am thinner I don't look 52 ,and when I have young men trying to chat me up I get a bit cross I have told one chap I was old enough to be his mother ,but with this illness I have put on weight and my face has changed a bit but I haven't been out social like that in 3 years , and I find I prefer my dogs LOL x

[vixen49 in reply to Shadows-walker]

Hi I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your job due to illness I have on my own for 12 yearshad boyfriends which all cheated had young men trying to chat me up ladies at our age yes I'm 50 years we still have what it takes. Lol soft huggies. Ros xoxoxxoxox

[anbuma in reply to Shadows-walker]

so sorry you lost your job .did you get any pay off for being medically dismissed?i t is a shock to the system -I was called into to my companys head office a week before an xmas to be told I didnt have a job any longer .i thought at the time how can you do this to me-im a hard worker and never not turned up for work like some and did a good job .it killed me at the time-suffered depression for long time.I got a good pay off tho it was redundancy and my pension was frozen.i claimed it when i was 50 cos of ill health and got a generous lump sum and a 4 weekly pension.hope you keep well and that you get things sorted quickly

[Shadows-walker in reply to anbuma]

No I was given 4 weeks notice ,but my contract was terminated that was it .i am just trying to hold it together . Thanks for support x

[Hidden]

so sorry about losing your job. Both I and my son were made redundant at the same time and hubby was waiting for esa tribunal. So even though we both had redundancy money it did not last long, those first few months were hell until hubby won at his tribunal and then son got a job at another lab earning more than he was. We are very lucky that he has been able to help out during the 10 months it has taken to sort out pip. hopefully things are starting to speed up on the benefits front and you should get your results and money a lot quicker than we did.

Wishing all the best for you. and yes things will be sorted so dont beat yourself up over not being able to work, most of us would if we could. Treat yourself kindly and take one day at a time.

Hugs sue xx

[Shadows-walker in reply to Hidden]

Thanks sue never claimed anything before so it's all a bit daunting bit calmer again this evening but have to go to council tomorrow so will proberly get a bit stressy again everything is so complecated instead of making things easy for people who are ill ,I even forgot what was wrong with me when trying to complete forms over phone today talk about being dull ,but it's a long list I suppose. Chris x

[TheAuthor]

Hi Shadows-walker.

I know that I messaged you yesterday about this, but I want to say again how sorry I am to read this. Your employer came across as genuine and trustworthy so please do not give up hope of ever working again.

I can imagine that you have now got a shock to your system as you will need to claim benefits and this is when the sadness clicks in? Please remember to go for your ESA and PIP, and if you need them there are rent and council tax rebates as well?

I want to wish you all the best of luck with your claims, and please do not get too despondent as they take time to process these claims.

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken x

[Shadows-walker in reply to TheAuthor]

Thanks ken it's been a bit of a roller coster today ,I know I will settle again ,but don't they make these things hard for us to claim , you would think if the medical profession is on your side it would be one click of a button ,my daughter was talking about clement Atley today and how he lived through the war and new what it was like to be in need of help ,the government we have today have never lived as we normal people do they on the whole have gone to private schools have had the best of everything and have never had real hardship to deal with , I know that the odd one has lived for a week on benifits but if they had to live for a year and survive with an illness such as fibro they would soon change the rules and that goes for all parties sorry on my soap box.thank you for your kind words I have been quite upset today but it's normal I expect I would of love to play ostrich, but I knew I had to be a grown up and get myself sorted , I am a bit concerned how my body will cope as stress as we know doesn't do any of us any good, am off to council offices tomorrow have claimed ESA today but when they asked what was wrong with me do you know I forgot fibro how stupid is that I couldn't remember what was wrong with me .so I said auto immune issues forgot UCTD as well these are my two mane conditions talk about being on another planet I don't know wheather I should ring them back or just get the doctor to put it on my sick note thank you for your support it means a lot .chris x

[Pamg]

Hi, I lost my job because of ill health but my employers did pay me a settlement which is helping until I get benefits sorted out. I have a lovely lady from the CAB helping me with all the forms. I must say although I am in a lot of pain each the stress of not worrying about work is so much better.

I hope you get sorted and wish you luck.

Pam

[Shadows-walker in reply to Pamg]

Thank you I feel very angry today which is negative and try hard to always be optimistic but I really don't feel like that I know my direct manager had a job to do and has left the door open for me to go back ,but I don't know if that was just said to make me go quietly in hindsight , I have very mixed emotions today. Tryed to get in to see my doctor today and couldn't have to see someone I have never seen before everything is upsetting me silly really . Thank you for you support it does help sorry I am down x

[Shadows-walker in reply to Pamg]

Thank you I feel very angry today which is negative and try hard to always be optimistic but I really don't feel like that I know my direct manager had a job to do and has left the door open for me to go back ,but I don't know if that was just said to make me go quietly in hindsight , I have very mixed emotions today. Tryed to get in to see my doctor today and couldn't have to see someone I have never seen before everything is upsetting me silly really . Thank you for you support it does help sorry I am down x

[fenbadger]

My sympathies. I can add nothing to the good advice you have. I'm in the process of losing one of mine and having the law on my side is no help as I don't have the resources to fight.

[Shadows-walker in reply to fenbadger]

Yes I know ,I don't know what to do ,I have been paying union subs I might give them a ring on Monday and see what they say I am tired now ,been to opticians ,council ,hospital, and doctors today shattered . Thanks foggie my doctor was so shocked when I told her but at least I have her support x

[fenbadger in reply to Shadows-walker]

Do that - that's what your subs are for. Good luck

[mitziblue]

So sorry sweetheart. I had to stop working as my fibro was getting so bad I couldn't do it anymore. Don't beat yourself up as your body now has limits and it's out of your hands. Have you been to a pain clinic? That may help for awhile. xxx Mitzi

[Shadows-walker in reply to mitziblue]

I am waiting for appointment for pain clinic I also have UCTD and sjorgrens and a few other. Auto imune issues they are controlling a lot of the nueralgia pain with meds , I am waiting for a biopsy to check my lymph glands , as well .

I just have issues with my breathing which they are putting down to fibro and I walk so slowly and I get tired so when I walk I use a stick I have to use a wrist split to support my wrist as I have a lot of discomfort because I lean so much ,when walking , but it's so frustrating I love walking the dogs and if you have seen any of my post especialy if you saw the one about my maden voyage on my scooter you'll know thank you for the support, I have been to the opticians ,the council , the hospital ,the GP and I went to war on orange tonight as my phone hasn't worked for a week, bit tired now but I feel better in my head as I am trying to get some control if my life . chris x

[mitziblue in reply to Shadows-walker]

Bless your heart!!! I pray you can get the help you need. I know what you mean by being frustrating. I had a colonoscopy last month and the light down the throat and they found 2 polyps and a fungus in my esophagus with my stomach being irritated. I've been gaining weight while on diets and my tongue is swollen and I wake up with terrible reflux. I'm so afraid when I see the doctor August 5th nothing will be done. I can't go on like this. It's like we have no control over our bodies at all anymore. Good luck with your appointment with the pain clinic. They really helped me with my pain. xxx Mitzi

[Shadows-walker in reply to mitziblue]

I will be fine ,there is always someone worse off and what I have isn't terminal it's an inconvience ,good luck with your appointment on august 5 th i hope everything is ok I get reflux it always happens just before my tummy starts I have a couple of lumps that go up and down in the back of my throat but rummie told me they were nothing and not to worry I hate it when my tummy starts as there is no dignity , I have bought some pads in case I get that again ,I have had that 3 times since Xmas they nearly put me in hospital in June because I was home alone ,but my daughter is here till end of step then she is off to japan for a year so she is trying to sort me out before she leaves , she turned 21 last Monday anyway off to watch the lege movie with her as she had it as a present on Monday chris x