anxiety during 2nd FET - advice appreciated

[Cooperlane450]

hi ladies,

I’m wondering if you can help me, I feel like I’m losing the plot!

I had my first frozen embryo transfer in Dec, which we found out was negative on Christmas Day. After 2 months off I’m going again, one day into my meds and I feel SO anxious. I feel like my heart is pounding out my chest and I just feel really on edge and emotional. I know my period won’t be helping but I’m starting to stress about the stress and it impacting the outcome of the transfer. I think the fact it’s my second transfer is also getting to me as I want it to work so badly. ❤️

Does anyone have any success stories of feeling anxious but still having a positive result? I’m going to have a counselling session with my clinic too, and try and keep myself busy but feel so worried.

Thanks all xxx

[Eloquentia]

I am sorry you are anxious. I had similar feelings of anxiety and negativity after our first failed transfer and before the second one, which actually worked. I found fertility reflexology really relaxing. Very best of luck!

[Cooperlane450 in reply to Eloquentia]

Thank you so much, I’m also doing reflexology so hoping it will help to keep me calmer

[Christianbaby]

I totally get it! I felt super anxious before my own transfer too, and it's normal to worry about how stress might affect things. But honestly, counseling really helped me a lot before my DE. It's amazing that you're taking that step too! It's great that you're keeping yourself busy and seeking support. That's exactly what you need right now. Sending you lots of positive vibes! xx

[ashbb]

Hey so I hear you. The meds made me feel INSANE. Like the worst pms ever - I had very very dark thoughts.

Before my first transfer I got prescribed some diazepam which I just took a couple of days leading up to FET and took time off work for a while. Therapy is also helpful so I’m glad you’re in counselling. I also did acupuncture

I had as natural a cycle as possible so only ovatrelle post FET. No pessaries. i guess it depends on your protocol.

I had a successful pregnancy and birth despite emotional instability during treatment. Now trying for baby 2. We had a failed FET in Jan and my husband said I couldn’t have been more relaxed about it compared with last time. Trying another FET tomorrow. X