Natural FET today - anxiety after losses

[Nightingale92]

Hey everyone,

Just need to get my anxiety out, I think. I’m going for a FET today at 2:30pm (natural cycle - no meds) and I’m so nervous. We lost our daughter to premature labour in September 2020. She was naturally conceived and was our 3rd natural pregnancy (one living child). After losing her we tried for 17 months with no luck. They have classed it as secondary unexplained infertility. We did our first cycle of IVF in March…we got a BFP but I had spotting from the start and the HCG was doing weird things. I knew it wasn’t going to last, and I miscarried at 7 weeks.

This is our only frozen embryo and we don’t have the money for another cycle. I feel like there’s so much resting on this transfer, and I feel really detached from it because I feel like it won’t work.

How can I be more positive? Does anyone have any tips? I really want to go into my transfer feeling positive and excited, rather than fearful and pessimistic. Thanks in advance ❤️

[Hidden]

Have you tried headspace app? X

[Nightingale92 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you - yes I use a few different mindfulness/meditation apps. I usually listen to them before bed to help me sleep (and during my acupuncture sessions) but maybe I’ll try a couple during the day today too.

[Hidden in reply to Nightingale92]

Best of luck!!! Fingers firmly crossed for a good outcome xxx

[Nightingale92 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you! Xx

[JustJane1234]

First of all, I'm so sorry for everything you've been through up 'til now. For me, one of the cruellest effects of fertility struggles is that it does become so difficult to feel happy and excited about pregnancy. Honestly, having been through what you have, positive and excited might be too much to hope for - perhaps it's better to aim for somewhere in the middle, so not fearful and pessimistic, but calm and determined? I wish you the best of luck xx

[Nightingale92 in reply to JustJane1234]

Thank you so much ❤️ Yes maybe I shouldn’t be putting so much pressure on myself to feel a certain away and should just go with it. Thank you xx

[Skittles11]

Hi Nightingale. I remember chatting to you before a few months back. It's understandable why you'd be nervous, you have been through a lot. I think the previous poster hit the nail on the head 100%. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself xx good luck

[Nightingale92 in reply to Skittles11]

Thanks so much. Yes you were really kind and supportive during my last cycle. Thank you xx