Negative test after FET

[Sunflowerrain]

Hi everyone,

We did our first round of IVF back in September. We’ve had to go private because my BMI is around 34.

Disappointingly we ended up with just one day 6 frozen embryo which we did a FET with last Wednesday. During our egg collection I had 8 follicles, collected 3 eggs, two fertilised and 1 made it through to a day 6 blastocyst rated 5bc.

I was told to test today and it was negative. Obviously gutted but tried to expect it due to the odds but yeah it doesn’t stop you hoping does it. Gutted to be going into another Christmas period like this again.

I’m 34, my husband is 47 and I was diagnosed with PCOS at 22 (although I’m on metformin now and the docs said they can’t see any signs of it) I also had a pelvis scan and they saw a small amount of endo but my doctor said not to worry about it. I’ve also got low AMH for my age around 5 from memory. So my doctor said after leztrozle to head straight to ivf.

I guess I’m just wondering what to do now going into another round. I think we’ll see my doctor again for this round & go again in a similar way but I’m also wondering if I should be looking abroad or at a multicycle package. I did the short protocol last time and my doctor asked if I wanted to the long or short this time and im at a bit of a loss tbh. I’ve also got an appointment with her next Thursday to discuss next steps. If anyone’s got any useful questions I could ask I’d appreciate that.

I also was diagnosed with a lactose intolerance as a child so wondering if it would be helpful to go diary free before the next round. I feel so lost and at sea. My aim is to carry on losing weight and get my BMI down as well.

It’s such an emotional and financial burden I’m just feeling really sad going into Christmas with bad news while trying to hold onto small glimmers of hope.

[MadeGood16]

Hi!

Our stories could literally mirror each other. I’m 36 and just experienced my first failed transfer. I had a laparoscopic surgery done to remove my stage three endo and over 15 fibroids. My transfer was in early November and I found out two weeks later that it failed. We met with my REI two days ago and we will go into another cycle, but with a different approach. Apparently there’s evidence that shows that suppressing the ovaries for 90 days and then starting the transfer cycle will increase the likelihood of a successful transfer. We are giving it a shot. Maybe you can consider asking your doctor about that.

Also, we did two egg retrievals before doing our transfer due to my age and low ovarian reserve. You are in my thoughts. I completely identify with your feelings right now. You are not alone. & one day this won’t be our situation, we’ll look back and smile, and help other women get through it,

[Sunflowerrain in reply to MadeGood16]

Thanks so much for your reply. This is the worst thing I’ve ever been through but thanks for sharing your story as well. I really hope your next cycle goes well I’ll be keeping my fingers firmly crossed for you. ❤️

[MinnSam]

Hi. Same age as you and going through my first IVF cycle. I would suggest try the long protocol where you typically retrieve more eggs than the short one. Also get a laparoscopy done to remove the endo and any uterine fibroids if present. All the best!!

[Sunflowerrain in reply to MinnSam]

Thanks for your reply. My doctor hasn’t recommended a laparoscopy she doesn’t think it’s needed and said as we’re private it would be a huge amount of money so just to carry on with ivf. It’s so hard not knowing what to do