Hello, my second round of IVF was failed this week
They only managed to harvest one egg and it wasn't good enough to be fertilised. I took this badly. It was much harder than dealing with the first failed round earlier in the year because in the first round they got six eggs, five of them fertilized and they all seemed to be of decent quality and doing quite well. In the end we only got one blastocyst, but I was happy with that and even though it didn't implant and result in pregnancy, I felt that we had given it our best shot.
There were some big differences in my lifestyle between the first and second round. My bmi was 27 for the first round and so I tried to lose some weight to see if that would help. I did lose weight but only by having a poor diet and skipping meals. Also I did have a couple of nights out with about 4 glasses of wine on each one in the months before I started stimulating, which is when I think the eggs are developing. Also, I was working very hard during the second round and so had little leisure time and did no exercise. In contrast, I was swimming regularly, cycling, doing yoga and generally living a fairly healthy lifestyle prior to the first round.
I now feel like I would like to try one more time with my own eggs before I am 42, perhaps if I implement my healthy lifestyle again, I could repeat the 'success' of the first round and get a blastocyst. I definitely wouldn't try with my own eggs after 42, but part of me wonders if I am deluding myself and that I should just accept that I am too old (41 and a half). I know women do get pregnant at this age, but I wonder how realistic it is for someone with fertility problems to think they have ok chances in this IVF lottery?