Lower backache after BFP and previous MMC. Really anxious

[SMBCnewbie]

It is exactly 1 year since my last FET which ended as a MMC at 12+3. Haematologist recommended enoxaparin for any future pregnancy. I had my 5 day transfer on 9th Sept (after 2 cancelled cycles as my ovulation was all over the place). My last embryo.

I got lower backache 24 hrs later and then extreme fatigue for a week. I tested 6dp5dt and got a faint positive and have been tracking line progression. Clearblue as per clinic 19th Sept (10dp5dt) and it said 2-3 weeks which fit with 4+1 (also strong line on non digital).

I've been so tired, but on Sunday I got quite bad lower backpain (still ongoing), felt nauseous, unwell and really really anxious. No bleeding, the number of times I went to check was ridiculous. My MMC started with backpain but obviously that was much further along. I went back to work on Monday, my nausea and other signs have gone, less tired, which worries me. I'm on progesterone double dose pessaries so bloating and tummy issues as per usual. After Sunday I just feel like things aren't going to work out. My anxiety is through the roof and I just feel like I'm waiting for the devastation again. I just don't trust my body to tell me, as it didn't last time.

The backache is a constant reminder so I can't take my mind off it. My viability scan is in 2 weeks at 7+1 and it feels like a lifetime away. How do you cope after loss ?

Did anyone else have lower backache at this stage and it just be early pregnancy/normal?

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi

. Try and not witty too much you may have a bit of an infection brewing. Drink lots of water to keep your urine nice and clear. Take paracetamol only for pain, but be careful if you are on aspirin. Hope it soon settles. Diane

[SMBCnewbie in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you. I'm on aspirin so I've held off on paracetamol at the moment. I have had acupuncture. It's just so hard to trust what's normal when I thought things were OK last time and for 3 weeks my baby had passed without my body telling me.

[Belldandy]

Hi! I have been having back pain almost since I had my FET. I am currently waiting for the 8 weeks scan but I have had the early viability scan where we could hear the heart beat and see that the pregnancy is in the correct location. I messaged my clinic about back pain being more intense yesterday and they said it’s normal, to avoid lifting and drink more water. I have heard it’s a common symptom of early pregnancy! Don’t worry! It will be alright! 🙏