Anxiety after mmc

[Blueberry16]

Hi ladies

I am really struggling these last few days. I had a mmc in december after ivf and have been lucky enough to get another bfp two weeks ago. However I still have two weeks to wait until my first scan and I am going out my mind with worry that I will have another mmc. I have had mild nausea and backache and been more tired than usual but that is the only symptoms. I feel like they are lessening each day and that the inevitable is going to happen. I feel so low and my poor husband is also suffering trying to reassure me. I know I should be happy but after our previous experience I am petrified. Any words of wisdom would be graciously received.xx

[Hidden]

Please try not to think negatively! It is amazing that you got pregnant this time and you’ve listed more symptoms than I ever had that early on. I know what this is like! I’ve had 2 Missed miscarriages and 6 losses in totals from 7-14 weeks and it kills but currently 19 weeks and feel blessed and thankful everyday. You have to believe this baby is well and be cautiously optimistic. More friends and family than not have had one miscarriage and it doesn’t mean it will happen again. My case was particularly complicated due to blood clotting and thyroid issues. Keep us updated and I wish you the very best of luck 🙏🏼🤞🏼Xxx

[Blueberry16 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your kind words. Your positivity is amazing after what you have been through and I know you are right. I shouldn't be doubting this wee one already I should be willing it on with all that I have. It was just such a shock last time. Yiu think you have gone through the worst of it and I naively never contemplated that there were further hurdles to face. I will give my self a shake and try to appreciate how lucky I am. Thank you. I wish you all the best with your pregnancy. Xxx

[Hidden in reply to Blueberry16]

I had my first mmc 8 weeks pregnant and it died on the very day we took a long haul flight 😓 back at the start of our journey i was clueless and the shock is intense, you never expect it to be you but over time it gets easier and you find the strength to go again because that the only way to make it happen! Keep talking positively to your precious baby and repeating wonderful affirmations and soon you’ll see it’s heart flickering 😘🙏🏼🤞🏼Xxx

[Blueberry16 in reply to Hidden]

Just had a wee tear at your response. Thank you. I promise to start talking positively to my hubby and trying to enjoy this. Thanks again.xx

[Hidden in reply to Blueberry16]

I’m sending positive vibes out into the universe for you xxxxx

[Blueberry16 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you.xx

[Hidden in reply to Blueberry16]

😘xxx

[Hidden]

Hi Hun, please try to stay positive. I say this as I'm 19 weeks pregnant after 2 mmc. I had 3 early scans & at each of them I expected bad news. I over analyse everything & am still doing so. I wish I didn't because it's taken the joy of a much longed for pregnancy away. It's natural to be extra worried due to our history but I hope your soon able to relax & enjoy being pregnant. Wishing you a happy & healthy pregnancy 😘 x

[Blueberry16 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you very much. We lost our first we one exactly on the day so I guess thats why I have found today particuarly hard. 13 days till my scan and hopefully all will be well. Wishing you the best of luck with your pregnancy. Xx

[Wishfully]

The wait for the first scan is really hard... the hardest wait of all. Think of each day as a step towards the safe zone. The link below helped me immensely, as I felt we were making progress no matter how slowly time seemed to be moving!

How you are feeling is completely natural given the circumstances. So try not to be down, because time will pass & why waste it feeling sad when there is so much hope!

Sending big hugs and happy vibes 😊 The odds are on your side xxx

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[Blueberry16 in reply to Wishfully]

Thank you so much for this. I am not sure how it is calculated or how accurate it is but it will bring me a great deal of comfort. I will use it as a calendar to tick off each day. Thank you for taking the time to respond to me.xx

[hjp27]

I am feeling the exact same thing - my 7 week scan is on Monday and googling (I know worst thing I can do) has put the fear of god into me. Feel this weekend is going to be the longest ever!!

[Blueberry16 in reply to hjp27]

I feel much better after a good sleep and the kind words from the ladies on here. Best of luck on monday . Will be thinking of you.xx