Hey! I hope everyone is doing as well as they can on this difficult journey.
I’m just feeling absolutely broken and empty after the latest knock and just wondering how everyone else continues to keep going?
A bit of background…
TTC 2 years then diagnosed with PCOS and started down ivf route
Had 6 cancelled cycles due to OHSS twice, then my lining wasn’t thick enough
Hysteroscopy found that I had severe scarring (no reason why) and it was removed and I took medication to try and resolve it
Covid happened and we had to wait 3 months
Started again and had another cancelled cycle due to thin lining
Next cycle we tried a non standard protocol where I inject gonal f alternate days to stimulate 1/2 follicles and the natural oestrogen thickens my lining- I had a lining of 4.6mm and my consultant let us have a go as fortunately we had 15 embryos and we also tried naturally at the same time- this was successful with my gorgeous LB
18 months ago we started trying for a sibling
1st cycle - BFP but unfortunately ended in MMC and after 2 x medical management unsuccessful, I had a D&C
2nd cycle cancelled as lining wasn’t thick enough but managed to conceive naturally, went to 6 week scan and found there was nothing there - it had ended as a chemical pregnancy
3rd cycle - another chemical
4th cycle - BFN
I had another hysteroscopy which was inconclusive so went for a 5th cycle
5th cycle - BFN
I had another hysteroscopy under GA which found more scarring which was from the D&C and basically told me I’d been wasting my time the whole last year as it would have been near impossible for the embryo to survive there
Follow up hysteroscopy showed the scarring had been successfully removed although very thin areas in my uterus so hoped next transfer would ‘land’ in the right place
6th cycle - poor response to meds and lining didn’t thicken so meds dramatically increased, I was told it could be because I’ve put on some extra weight! BFN
7th cycle we took an extra month off to have a break and family holiday, started taking stims, higher dose due to poor response last time. On Saturday the scan looked good. Lining trilmainar and 5.2 (good for me) with quite a few large follicles.
Then yesterday I went for re scan and was told I had over responded to the meds and there were too many follicles, I could either cancel the cycle due to risk of OHSS or do an egg collection (although no guarantee this would work as I may ovulate too early) given 30 mins to decide. So we decided to cancel the cycle. I was given busereline to releases the eggs although given strict instructions not to have sex.
Hoping we can start again in two weeks but told unlikely that my ovaries will have gone down by then.
I’m also questioning whether we should do an egg collection while I’m still 39, as my consultant told my my remaining 7 embryos that are grade C are unlikely to work. But we really hadn’t wanted to do this as I’m high risk for OHSS.
So now my heads a mess.
I’m really struggling to keep carrying on, with set back after set back. I know I’m so lucky to have my LB but I feel like such a failure for not being able to give him a sibling.
I’m struggling to be in touch with all my friends as there’s just one pregnancy after another popping up.
I can’t bare to give up on another child, but don’t know if I’m wasting my time and should just call it a day.
Thanks for everyone who’s read so far xxxxx