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I caved and tested 8 days past - stark white negative. Feeling so deflated as this is my second transfer and was really feeling like this was the one.

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Doodlebug23

Oh no you caved. You know I am just going to say what I hate to hear which is it’s still early… what test did you use? X

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Rjfguitfg in reply to Doodlebug23

Yeah... I had such a good feeling and we are about to leave on a trip so I just caved in. I used a First Response, so I reckon I'm out. OTD is Thursday but feels like a formality.

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Doodlebug23 in reply to Rjfguitfg

Is OTD Thurs for bloods though?

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Rjfguitfg in reply to Doodlebug23

Yeah…

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Doodlebug23

I hate being told this, but then POAS would be 2 days after that according to my clinic. I know you prob think oh shut up woman lol. I know how you are feeling as I’ve been there a few times. It’s heartbreaking. Keeping anything crossed it changes x

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Rjfguitfg in reply to Doodlebug23

Thank you! I know it’s true and now I’m mad for testing early. Will hold out for the blood test now and try to enjoy my trip in the meantime.

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Doodlebug23

You can’t win. If you’d not tested you’d be constantly thinking oh I wish I had. Try and enjoy your trip. There’s nothing you can do x

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Rjfguitfg in reply to Doodlebug23

Thank you. That’s so true.

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Chellev40

So my test day is Thursday too and I tested this morning because I just felt like the lack of symptoms meant I'm out.My test also negative and my clinic called today to see how I'm doing, I told them everything and even they said it's still too early to test.

I'm praying for a miracle on Thursday but don't think I'll get it. Sorry this isn't a more positive response but just wanted you to know you're not on your own.

Wishing you all the best x

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Rjfguitfg in reply to Chellev40

Wishing you all the best too. I feel the same way, hoping for a miracle but don’t think I’ll get it.

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Chellev40 in reply to Rjfguitfg

Everything crossed for us both x

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Et88

yes Hang in there … there are lot of +ve stories as you get closer to test day!

Unfortunately for me, test day was Friday 6th and AF has already knocked me down.

Unless AF arrives, keep the hope up dears..

Staying positive is the only option

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Kiara89

Yes hang in there, sometimes they implant between 3 or even 5 days post transfer, that could cuz the bhcg to rise later. It's too early. Keep positive. And enjoy your trip 🤗

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Twiglet2

sorry lovely I’m in the same boat, out this time with a negative at day 7&8 p5dt. PS you didnt ‘cave’ you tested your own pee when it suited you and that’s perfectly fine for us to do 😥 sending you a massive hug! Xx

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Glaedy

So sorry for you BFN...sending you massive hugs. I don't know what is it with this March but it seems like all transfers failed :/ my clinic booked me for follow up on the 12th of April. I am curious what they will say this time. If they will blame untested embryos again

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Cinna-mom

sending love your way. I do know the feeling all too well. There’s still hope so until it’s official, keep taking your meds and try to enjoy your vacation.

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Lostinmaze

I managed to hold on till my test day yesterday and received a bfn result, so sad to see the words "not pregnant" stamped on the test. Sending love to all on this topsy turvey journey xx

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Pingu1234 in reply to Lostinmaze

This happened to me also today. Third time in a year. Heartbroken to say the least. Those words on the test cut deep xo

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AmethystGem

I've joined the negative club today. First FET. I'm trying to remain logical about this and remind myself of the stats, but yeah it stings and all I can hear is the clock ticking.

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