I’m so so sad. I really though that this day would finally be the day of our BFP. I feel like our chances are much slimmer now we’ve not made our first attempt at ivf.
Clinic are suggesting a repeat fresh cycle as the quality of our frozen blasto isn’t great (I didn’t realise till I just got off the phone with them). So looking at setting a date for another fresh cycle - having gotten pretty ill during this one I admit I’m not ecstatic about it but obvs v grateful to have funding for one more.
Any advice with how to cope with the loss? I feel like we’ve lost a baby that we never really had.
Some of my family are telling me that I need to be patient and that it can take time to get pregnant (I sort of know that having been off the pill for about 6yrs), ‘act natural’ - whatever that means when your body is on a massive hormone hangover and get positive about my next cycle. I will get my head around it eventually and pull myself together, we do manage this don’t we? But I’m just grief stricken and shocked by our result.
I’d stopped testing for almost a year before doing ivf (just let AF symptoms tell me) as I found the BFN’s too hard to cope with and gave up thinking we’d ever get pregnant (although we continued trying with good effort - sorry tmi!). I so thought this would be our positive, I really thought I was pregnant.
Would really appreciate any kind thoughts / suggestions to help get through this. Anyone else felt this grief? 😢 Sorry for the pity party