So upset can't stop crying

[sam84]

After having the hsg test in February after tubular surgery and reading all The positive results in the first and second cycle I really thot it would happen for me well my third period just came today and I can't help but feel so upset I have my review app in June and im now sure he is going to tell me ivf is the only way I've had my free treatment and have no idea how I'm going to afford 6 grand to pay for it I'm scared my dreams of being a mummy are over x

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi sam84. So sorry to see that you are so upset. Hopefully, your tubes are still OK, and perhaps you still may be in with a chance of natural conception. Remember that it doesn’t always happen overnight and even the most fertile women only have a 1 in 6 chance of getting pregnant each month! If you would like me to email you a list of questions to go through before you go back for a follow up appointment, you can email me at: [e-mail] Diane

[sam84 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thanks Diane that would be great I have one tube left it's been operated on and when I had the dye test done it went through I know it can take a while but I just feel so down every time my period comes this time I've been really bad crying all day it's not normally like me I try so hard to be positive but I'm finding it so hard today xx

[sam84 in reply to DianeArnold]

Diane I've tried to email but it won't send x

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to sam84]

Hi sam84. Sorry for the late response, I’m only here Monday, Wednesday & Friday from 10.00am – 4.00pm, so if I get a message late it doesn’t get answered till “next” working day. I was sorry to hear that you are still feeling so fragile, but you must realise that these feelings you have are quite normal. Your mind starts working overtime, and you are trying to put a brave face on things. I think that you need to be careful who you spend time with just for the time being, until you feel stronger. I know we all hate all his intervention with treatment and procedures, but at least we do have them to give us a chance. I’ve put my email address again, so send me a reply via your pc or whatever devise you use, as I don’t think it always works going through the HU site. [e-mail] and I will email you the “questions”. Diane

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to sam84]

Hi sam84. Sorry for the late response, I’m only here Monday, Wednesday & Friday from 10.00am – 4.00pm, so if I get a message late it doesn’t get answered till “next” working day. I was sorry to hear that you are still feeling so fragile, but you must realise that these feelings you have are quite normal. Your mind starts working overtime, and you are trying to put a brave face on things. I think that you need to be careful who you spend time with just for the time being, until you feel stronger. I know we all hate all his intervention with treatment and procedures, but at least we do have them to give us a chance. I’ve put my email address again, so send me a reply via your pc or whatever devise you use, as I don’t think it always works going through the HU site. [e-mail] and I will email you the “questions”. Diane

[Filmgirl101]

Don't panic yet. My friend lost one tube, was told the other was questionable after the dye test. She started to prepare herself for the need of fertilty treatments. 6 months later she decided to approach her GP for fertility treatments only to discover she was pregnant! so one tube is daunting but not impossible.

It's hard to REALLY want something and feel it's out of your control. As for the money, it's a lot to save, but not impossible. We only had 1 go on the NHS, it went disasterously. So we found ways to save up. It took a lot of years and a lot of savings but we did it.

[sam84 in reply to Filmgirl101]

Hi filmgirl thanks for your mess I just can't wait to see my consultant I'm June and have the outcome of the dye test explained properly the girl who done it said dye went through and that was good but was few we bumps along the way I just wish it would happen finding it so hard to relax so a friend has recommended the zita west cd I'm just abt to put it on so I hope it helps calm me xx