TTC sibling- 2x failed FET’s 2 left

[Slm123-]

hey everyone, I’m 31 years old desperately trying for a sibling for my little boy. My partner has VERY low sperm morphology. I have had 1 fresh cycle which resulted in my son and 4 frosties. Recently had 2x failed FET’s. Finding this difficult to cope with and losing hope. I’m wondering if anyone is in a similar situation and could share some success stories please? I think I’m particularly finding it so difficult because my experience previously was completely different and I think I have been completely naive this time around I’m thinking that it would work 1st time again. Obviously I’m aware now that the chances of this were low!! I want to try again asap but I’m so worried it won’t work and I won’t be able to cope with the disappointment. Is there anything anyone has tried that would be worth me looking into? I’m taking lots of different supplements but any advice would be great. I’m feeling so overwhelmed and my follow up appointment with the doctor at my clinic isn’t for another 2 weeks. Thank you for reading xx

[Choots]

Proxeed plus for men definitely

[Eloquentia]

Hi! I am sorry to hear about the failed FETs, IVF can be really soul crushing. I've had two FETs and a baby girl from the second one. We were NHS funded so there was little scope for further investigations after one BFN but for the second transfer I did insist on progesterone testing two days before and on the day of the transfer (they ended up doubling my dose as it was on the low side both times). We also discussed changes in the protocol - they added baby aspirin and recommended oral and vaginal probiotics. Last but not least, I went on a Mediterranean diet with Greek yoghurt, honey, walnuts, fish etc in the run up. Also drank pomegranate juice for the lining from around the time they put me on Progynova. Very best of luck with the next transfer, I hope you get a sticky one

[Slm123- in reply to Eloquentia]

Thank-you for the tips. I haven’t had any further testing done yet but it’s something im going to push for at my follow up appointment- especially my progesterone. Im so glad you got your little girl 🥰.

Iv seen lots of people mentioned pomegranate juice so il add that in on my next transfer too xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi, just wanted to wish you well. Have you has a hysteroscopy to check your womb and a lining sample. Also, if you have your tubes are they ok with no toxic fluid dripping into your womb. Be careful not to overload your liver with too many vitamins etc. a balanced diet is. Just as good. All the best. Diane

[Slm123- in reply to DianeArnold]

Hi, thanks for your message. No I haven’t had any further testing yet but it’s something I will look at and push for at my follow up appointment. Yeah, a balance diet is something I try to have but iv been taking proceed and omega 3 supplements as well xx

[Laura3101]

I know your wanting success stories of ivf siblings but I just wanted to share that once we had our first daughter by ivf over 6 years ago we went through another 3 ivf round with the Frosties left and ultimately we didn’t end up with a sibling. It was super hard at the time and still sometimes I think how nice it would be for a sibling but also tried to change our mindset when it didn’t work for us. Sure we could have spent more money but with no guarantee so the money we have now goes on memories with our little girl aka Disneyland, Lapland etc I always make sure that in the school holidays we have plenty of play dates with other children so she’s not on her own and the times we have just us is actually super nice as she gets all our attention. It’s so difficult when you want another but I promise you if it doesn’t work out there are plenty of positives from having the one child aswell. Hope that helps from a different perspective

[Slm123- in reply to Laura3101]

Thank you for your message and I’m sorry to hear that you didn’t get a sibling. I think you’re so brave and well done for making the most of your time spent with your little girl. My mindset is just not there yet and I’v decided to keep trying but I’m loving the positivity and I hope you enjoy making lots of lovely memories with your little family xx

[MiniMe23]

Morning, I really feel for you here and was in the exact same position as you know. My clinic always told me on average it’s 1/4 for success there. With my second choice telling me 1/6.

I chose to power through as I felt if I had big breaks between I’d need to build myself up again to go into another transfer. I felt like giving up immediately as I am 37 and my age gap between siblings was already bigger at that point than I would have liked.

First cycle 15 eggs. 5 fertilised to Day 5 blastocysts.

First fresh top quality failed to implant August

2nd fet failed to implant October

3rd fet failed to implant January

4th fresh, lowest of my blastocysts BFP March.

As hard as it is. Keep the faith. Your BFP not too far away. And you have age on your side also. Sending lots of love. You’ve got this xx

❤️

[Slm123- in reply to MiniMe23]

Hey, thanks for sharing your story. It’s absolutely devastating each time it doesn’t work isn’t it 😔 I’m so pleased that you’ve finally got your BFP though and I hope you’re doing ok.

Im like you, I thought about having a break in-between but iv decided to plough on with the next one now as I’m not sure if I can deal with the waiting around. Iv already got a bigger age gap than I’d have liked.

Here’s to hoping and praying that the 2 left will lead to success.

I hope you don’t mind me asking but did you change anything between your cycles and did you have any further tests following your failed transfers ❤️ ?? X

[MiniMe23 in reply to Slm123-]

It is soul crushing. But I believe each time you’re one step closer to success. And thank you. I still can’t quite believe it and it’s early days. But I honestly think if I’d have stopped to have a break. I’m not 100% that I would have got back on this rollercoaster.

I’d had NK cells checked and soern fragmentation as we had male factor due to low motility. I previously never had an issue conceiving on my part. But the trouble was staying pregnant. I did have a lot of stress and family worries throughout though.

I was going to do PGTA testing if I needed another retrieval although a lot of people say it’s not really worth it. In my 1st and third transfer. I spotted or bled prior to OTD, so third and fourth round. I added in Clexane, aspirin and increased Lubion to every day rather than every other day.

My clinic don’t do progesterone bloods the morning of transfer but I’d read so many stories of people who had lost and wasted embryos to find out later that they needed a day 6 transfer with an extra day’s progesterone.

I also asked the questions and was told too little can affect success but too much isn’t so much of an issue. But instead they still opted for D5T with this last one. I was back and forth with my decision but decided to take an extra Lubion injection the morning of transfer in addition to my nightly one if had the evening before. I then had my evening one following transfer that same evening. Not sure if that’s what did it or not, but I figured after 3 failed it can’t hurt xx

I’ll be following your journey and wishing you luck and baby dust along the way.

How old is your first child? If you don’t mind me asking xx

[Chloettc2020]

Am in a similar situ to yourself. My son was born from my first FET after miscarriage from fresh round. Have just had BFN today from second FET, feeling pretty devastated & wondering whether to bother going again. I hope you're okay, inbox is always open xx

[Slm123- in reply to Chloettc2020]

Ah I’m so sorry to hear about your failed FET. It really is devastating and so hard to pick yourself back up after a negative result. I hope you’re ok and have lots of support around you. Iv taken some time off work to repair myself mentally and taking each day by day. I’m finally starting to feel more positive about wanting to try again but there is that risk of it not working again and wondering how I will cope 😞. Do you have any Frosties left to give it another go?

Sending you lots of strength and just know that you’re not alone xx