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⚠️ warning sensitive post ( 20 week scan update)

Hi everyone.

Please don’t read if this upsets you ( and I won’t be offended in anyway) I won’t post any scan pic here coz I know how seeing them can be whilst having a difficult day.

We had our 20 week scan ( it’s going so quickly now!) & our baby is completely healthy; was a bit of a monkey & moved in difficult positions to see organs; I had to empty bladder, then that didn’t work so had to do star jumps hubby was cracked up 🤣 eventually as I moved on my side ( my idea) she got a better view.

We were desperate after knowing all was well with the baby to know the gender; they crossed their legs! Luckily in the end midwife managed to see enough to for her to be sure it was a girl! 💝Had to be to be that awkward 🤣 a little sister for my son I’m so lucky 💙💝

We are delighted ( but we would’ve been happy either gender) Some work colleagues asked my hubby at Christmas party what his preference was. He declared neither & was just happy to have a baby after so long of trying ( 7 years 1 month) not sure why anyone would have a preference find that a bit odd 🤔 we just wanted a healthy baby ❤️

It was a really difficult journey getting there & it was the toughest thing I’ve ever done. At times we never felt we get there & never thought I’d be writing a post like this, to try to give others hope it can happen ❤️ and keep believing your time will come. I think we appreciate it so much more ❤️

I wish you all your happy endings & this becomes a distant painful memory. ❤️ I look forward to seeing others have their dreams become true ✨xoxo

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That's great! I love seeing positive stories and successful stories gives me hope and makes me smile! All the best to you and wishing you happy and healthy pregnancy 😍🤗😊xxxxx

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Thank you so much ( sorry for late response) and all the best with your cycle got everything crossed for you ✨xoxo

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Thank you so much and i hope soon i can join the other team as well.hihi 😍😊🤗xxx

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Fantastic news, wow 20 weeks, time seems to be flying round x

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) & hope all is going well with you ❤️xoxo

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Congratulations. I'm so pleased that your pregnancy is progressing well.

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) & I hope you are okay ❤️ xoxo

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Awww congratulations. I’m glad ur scan went well. I remember reading ur story not long ago. Wow 20 weeks went so quick. Glad baby is growing nicely n soon u will be here. I’m so happy to hear happy story. I kno it’s really hard journey for a lot of people but I pray every gets happy ending too.

Take care :)

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Thank you ( sorry for late response) it is hard but worth fighting for 👍 I hope your pregnancy is going well ❤️xoxo

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Thank u,it’s going good so far :)

U look after ur self:)

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Yay congratulations Jess so glad the scan went well ( eventually 😂) after all you've been through!! half way now ! Lots love xxx

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🤣Thank you ( sorry for the late response) I hope your pregnancy is going well ❤️xoxo

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Congratulations on your scan another milestone achieved. Im so pleased for you that all went well. What a relief. Awww you're gona have a baby girl how sweet. Im with you, doesnt matter what the sex as long as baby is healthy. Jess you are half way there well done both of you for getting this far and for not giving up. Wishing you the best for the remainder of your pregnancy xx

My scan is on monday...i am nervous excited and worried. I need reassurance.

Have you felt any flutters so far? If so when did they start?

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) really excited for her arrival 😍

I have felt little flutters from 16 weeks ( this my second successful pregnancy) but only when I’m lying on my side. My midwife said we might feel kicks from 20 weeks ( I haven’t yet) but some women don’t feel any movement until 24 weeks so not to worry. My placenta is high so can so I was told it can stop me feeling so much movement? Because I’m only 21 weeks she wasn’t worried that it was high. Perhaps your placenta is higher too?

I was a bit nervous about the scan but I told myself we’d heard the heartbeat at 16 weeks & all was well so nothing to assume it would’ve gone wrong between now & then also I’m sure at this point I’d known. I was less nervous than my 12 weeks scan! Most losses occur before 12 weeks & im sure your baby is fine but it will reassure you to hear that at your scan. 💗Are you finding the gender or do you want a surprise?!

Do update when you have your scan. Wishing you well & im sure all will be fine 😍✨ xoxo

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Congratulations 😊 xx

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) ❤️xoxo

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Lovely news. Congratulations xx

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Thank you ( sorry for late response) hope your pregnancy is going well ❤️ xoxo

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Congratulations Jess! So happy for all three of you! 🎉😘

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) hope your pregnancy is going well ❤️xoxo

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Hi Jess

Sadly we discovered I’d had an MMC at our 8 week scan a week and a half ago. They think the baby stopped growing at 6 weeks and a day. It was confirmed this Thursday and they fitted me in for a D&C on Friday.

I’m coming to terms with it slowly and trying to look ahead. Thankful not only that I got my first ever BFP but also that we were able to freeze 2 embryos after our first ever cycle.

I’ve read your previous posts about your journey and others on here and they keep me strong and hopeful. I know we will get our miracle soon and can’t wait to join the club! 🙏🏽😘 x

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I am so sorry to read this. 😢Such a heartbreaking thing to go through especially when it’s so wanted. 💔 I had an early loss last year it’s unimaginable the sense of loss you feel. Do remember just because this pregnancy didn’t work out doesn’t mean the next pregnancy wouldn’t ❤️ most women who miscarry will go on to have a healthy baby ✨🌈 and so will you ❤️ Hope you have lots of support around you xoxo

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Thanks Jess 😘Thankfully I do have lots of great support around me xxx

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Aw always great to hear the happy stories to help stay positive. Congratulations. Thanks for sharing.x

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) I hope all is going well with you. I also had low AMH ❤️ xoxo

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Lovely news!

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) I hope your 2WW is going well ✨❤️ xoxo

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Lovely news Jess, I'm so pleased for you. I hope the rest of your pregnancy is as comfortable and straightforward as possible, in no time at all you'll have your beautiful little girl. Huge congratulations x

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Thank you so much for such a lovely reply ( sorry for the late response) I hope your 2WW is going well & wish you a BFP year day ✨❤️ xoxo

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Wonderful news so happy for you both 😘😘😘

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response ) hope all is going well with you ❤️xoxo

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How wonderful Jess I am so happy for you !!! Hope all continues smoothly for you and please let us know when your princess arrives x

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) Hope you are enjoying your precious grandchild ❤️ xoxo

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Yes she is amazing it has been quite tough as there were some complications and little one has had a couple of problems but things are improving and we love her so much definitely looking forward to your happy ending too x

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Aww jess Im so happy for you this is amazing news! A little princess just wonderful! 😍 I think "normal" people who can get pregnant just by having sex a couple times 🤣 probably is abnormal for them not to have a preference with gender....we've just been through so much we just want a healthy baby full stop! So happy for you 😁😍😘👸👸💕 xxx

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response ) haha yes very true 🤣 Anyway good luck for your FET hope it is successful 🤞🏻✨❤️ xoxo

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That's lovely news Jess xx congratulations xx 🧡💛💚

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) I hope all is going well with you ❤️ xoxo

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Aww this is a lovely post Jess and now you can start colour planning for your gorgeous girl to be! I must admit i would have to find out the sex too, this journey is all about waiting so the things we can def find out then i'll be saying ues please! Haha! Xx

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) Haha too much waiting & im not a patient person 🤣I have already brought 5 girly outfits 😏& have planned so many clothes for her haha she’ll have a better wardrobe than me at this rate 🤣

Anyway hope your pregnancy is going well. And wish you both well ❤️✨🌈 xoxo

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Oh wow Jess, that's amazing news! You couldn't be more deserving of this joy. I'm so pleased that your miracle is growing from strength to strength every day. It won't be long and she'll be here!

Can't wait to hear that she's arrived safe and sound! Xxx 😘

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) & I hope your pregnancy is going well. ❤️ xoxo

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So happy for you jess. 💕well done on the scan. Hope you and bump are well xx

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) I hope your pregnancy is going well ❤️ xoxo

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Ohh wow Jess.... massive congratulations to you and your family xxx

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) hope your pregnancy is going well ❤️ xoxo

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No worries Jess....I’m doing ok thank you... 31 weeks this week so time is fast approaching 😊😊😘

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Thats great news Jess. Hoping the rest of the pregnancy goes smoothly. x

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) I hope your pregnancy is going well ❤️ xoxo

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That’s great. Really pleased everything is going so well. And time is flying. She’ll be here before you know it!

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response ) I hope you are doing well ❤️xoxo

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Great news Jess. So pleased it's going well after 7 years and all the stresses you had at the beginning. Hopefully you are now enjoying your pregnancy xxx

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) We are very excited for her arrival 😍 I hope your pregnancy is going well? ❤️xoxo

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Aww fantastic news!! So pleased for you both 😘 x x

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) I hope all is going well your end & wish you the best ❤️ xoxo

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How brilliant! It's mad isn't it? You spend all that time trying to get pregnant and the actual pregnancy flies by. I totally agree with this whole gender preference nonsense too- after trying for so long you don't care as long as you have a healthy baby. My aunt asked me if my husband was disappointed we're having a girl and,I said why would he be after everything? She didn't say much after that! Best wishes for the rest of your pregnancy xx

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response ) it is now flying by since 12 weeks! oh goodness me why would you feel disappointed 🙄 a beautiful princess for you both 💝😍 I count myself as lucky to be having a baby as not everyone is as lucky. Wishing you the best with your pregnancy 💗xoxo

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Great to hear all went well Jess! Long time coming eh?! Congrats on your little girl!💗xx

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Thank you so much 💗( sorry for the late response) All the best with your transfer & 2WW will keep everything crossed for you for a so deserved BFP 🤞🏻✨❤️ xoxo

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Thanks honey, really appreciate it....appreciate all the support you've given me!xx

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You’ve got this. ❤️The ladies on here are made of strong stuff 💪🏻 I have complete respect for you all xoxo

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Right back at you hun!!💗xx

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That's lovely news! So glad you'll get to have both a son and daughter!

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) I know I am very lucky 💙💝 Hope you are okay xoxo

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Oh how fantastic, that’s such lovely news! I can’t believe that you are 20 weeks!! Good luck with the rest of it xxx

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response ) All the best with your upcoming cycle got everything crossed for you 🤞🏻✨❤️xoxo

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Thank you so much xx🌈

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Amazing news 😍💗 aww just lovely xx

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) hope all is going well with you ❤️xoxo

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All is really good thank you, my little man was 6 months old on Monday 😍xx

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Brilliant news Jess. I had a feeling when I seen the title of your post that you are having a girl. Really pleased hun. Your half way there so deserve this hun. Congratulations 😍😘😘

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) Longtime no see ❤️ Hope your little boy & family are doing well ❤️ Lots of brave warrior ladies on here all deserving of happy endings 🤞🏻❤️ We are over the moon can’t wait for her arrival 😍 xoxo

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That's for sure. I'm real happy to see some of you long standing ladies half way to your 🌈 s. Don't be sorry hun better late than never. Family is fine thanks. Just me that doesn't seem to be endless ops since having him having another soon can't get my head round it all. 😘😘

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Glad to hear your family is well but so sorry to hear what you are going through. You’ve had a rough ride; with the pregnancy & still after having him having difficulties. You definitely deserve a break... I can’t imagine how hard this must be for you when all you want to do is enjoy the family you tried so hard for 💝💙 Really hope this is the last surgery you will need 🤞🏻✨❤️ xoxo

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Aww wonderful news Jess - so happy for you and your little girl!

I almost read the title of your post wrong and for a second was horrified as I thought it was bad news considering all the recent posts (!)

So happy things are going smoothly - looks like you're going to have a handful with this baby if she's already being difficult 🤣

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response ) haha I think we will have our hands full with her 🤣

I hope you are holding up as well as can be & sending well wishes to you. One day it will be you writing a similar post ❤️✨🌈 xoxo

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Fantastic news Jess. So pleased your little girl us healthy. I hope the next 20 weeks or so go quickly. Xx

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) Congratulations on your little girl 💗xoxo

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Congratulations! I’m so pleased to see that you finally have your miracle baby xx

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) she was worth fighting for 😍 I hope you are okay ❤️xoxo

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Fantastic news Jess congrats again xx

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) I hope you are holding as well as can be & have lots of support around you during this time ❤️ xoxo

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Fantastic news congratulations!!

Glad it’s going fast for you xxx

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) it does grow quicker once you pass 12 weeks!!! I hope your pregnancy is going well & wish you the best with it ✨❤️🌈 xoxo

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Can’t wait for it to go quicker lol! I’m at that panic stage again waiting for our scan date!! Xx

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How many weeks are you now? When is your next scan? Have you booked to a midwife yet? The early weeks are really hard, it does get better. ❤️Anxiety improves after 12 weeks. I think all women feel like that, but harder for us. This is your time ✨🌈❤️ xoxo

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I’m 9 weeks now, we have our booking in appointment next Monday with the midwife so hopefully once that’s done I can get my scan booked!!

Oh they are, I still just keep thinking the worst even though we’ve seen our little bean already!! Just feel like we’re not out of the woods yet! Xx

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Wow 20 weeks already!!! Time flies. I'm glad, it's all good news from you. Wishing you the best for the remaining period of pregnancy.

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response ) I hope your pregnancy is going well ❤️ xoxo

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Its going fine. Thanks

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Congratulations! It’s so good to read a positive story. All the best x

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) Hearing positive stories here kept me going ❤️ It will be you one day writing a similar post ✨xoxo

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Thank you. Fingers crossed 🤞. Xx

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I'm so pleased all is going well still. The rest of the time will fly xx

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) hope all is going well for you ✨❤️ xoxo

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I am so pleased for you. All the best with your pregnancy. Xx

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) Wishing the best on your journey ❤️✨xoxo

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Congratulations! What lovely news. It’s so lovely seeing success stories and that you will have a sibling for your son.

I’m currently just over 26 weeks pregnant with my second (both ICSI babies) and can’t wait to have a sibling for our little boy.

Wishing you a great last 20 weeks xxx

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) Congratulations on your pregnancy. ❤️It is lovely for our sons 💙to have a sibling❤️ ( even tho mines 20 he is very happy for us!) All the best with your pregnancy xoxo

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Huge congratulations Jess

And to your husband too 💕 a little girly xx

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Thank you ( sorry for the late response) We are delighted & I have brought & planned her wardrobe 💗( it will be better than mine at this rate 🤣) Hope you & the girls are doing well ❤️ xoxo

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Just don’t buy too much in case a boy it does happen lol .

Enjoy baby clothes shopping 🛍 🥳💕🥰

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I’ll keep my receipts just in case! She saw 3 lines & was pretty certain it was a girl ( we would be happy with either) xoxo

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I think your in the clear Jess hehe.

Hope pregnancy is treating you well 😘 and thank you for asking how my girls are . Both unwell at the moment . And my smallest girl under paediatric care first appointment is Friday . Scared about it but got to be done . I got this far now to continue . A mothers worry never ends xx

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I personally love to read the positive stories, they give me hope. Wishing you the very best with the rest of your pregnancy xxxxx

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) Stories of hope kept me going ❤️ It will you one day writing a post like this one ❤️ Wishing you the best with your journey xoxo

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Wonderful news from your scan Jess. Delighted to hear all is going well. Looking forward to more happy updates from you xx

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Thank you that’s really kind ( sorry for the late response) I hope you are managing to get somewhere with your clinic 🤞🏻❤️ xoxo

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Jess can't tell you how emotional l feel reading your post. I am so thrilled for you. You've had such a rough ride. I hope you are enjoying your long awaited pregnancy 😀

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Thank you so much ( sorry for the late response) It’s lovely everyone here understands the journey ( even tho our diagnosis & treatment may differ) it’s so heartbreaking to go through for everyone here & I wish everyone a happy ending 😍 I hope everything is going well with you & that you get your miracle baby ❤️

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Congrats Jess! So glad it is going really well for you. I agree about the gender statements, it's a bit weird isn't it? I'm 13 wks so now telling people and it must be the first question that everyone asks me!!! You'd have thought by 2019 people would be a bit more chill about gender issues, but I guess not! Anyway, enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Xx

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Thank you isn’t just me then 🤣 ( sorry for the late response) Congratulations on passing past 12 weeks, such a big milestone to get through ❤️ Only 3 weeks to go & you will be able to hear your baby’s heartbeat at your 16 week appointment with your midwife 😍 It does go quicker after 12 weeks & you will feel less anxious ❤️ everyone is petrified in the early weeks. Hope you are now able to enjoy your pregnancy more ❤️xoxo

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Such lovely news, thank you for spreading hope good luck with the rest of your pregnancy xx

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Thank you so much ( sorry only seen your response) infertility can be beaten 💪🏻 takes a bit of determination but can be done!!! 👍I hope you are okay? ❤️xoxo

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I’m feeling more positive thanks, waiting for next period to start meds for FET so 🤞🤞 xx

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Wishing you the best with FET, hope it’s a BFP. 🌟Good luck with the 2WW hope it doesn’t drag too much. 💗 xoxo

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Lovely news Jess, that the scan went well and that you are having a baby girl 😊 hope you are keeping well xx

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Thank you so much ( sorry only just seen your response) Wishing you the best with your cycle & hope this year your dream comes true 😍✨❤️ xoxo

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Lovely news 💗 I’m so glad you and your little girl are doing well x

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Thank you so much ( sorry only just seen your response) I hope your pregnancy is going well ❤️ xoxo

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Ah congratulations. Glad all was well with bambino. I had my 20 week scan at the beginning of the year but we decided not to find out what we are having. Eek!

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Thank you. Congratulations on your 20 week scan milestone 🙌🏻 Every milestone should be celebrated! We are are just too impatient not to know 🤣 All the best with the rest of your pregnancy 🌟 xoxo

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Congratulations to you. I've got my 20 week scan on Thursday - feeling a great sense of excitement to see the baby again but also trepidation and anxiety, as I don't want them to discover that there is anything wrong with the baby, especially as we've had not done any screening tests. Lots of best wishes for your pregnancy.

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Thank you.

We didn’t do any screening tests either.

Good luck for today, hope you get the reassurance you need. 💗 I hope your baby behaves better mine did!

Are you going to find out the gender or are you wanting a surprise? xoxo

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Fantastic news Jess 😊

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Thank you. I hope your little boy is doing well 💙 xoxo

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Congrats!!! So happy for you both! A healthy little girl! You deserve all the happiness in the world 💖xxx

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Thank you, I wish everyone here their happy bundles of joy 😍 I am really sorry to hear your news & hope by putting the dose up gets you your BFP you so deserve ❤️✨🤞🏻 xoxo

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Thanks so much lovely! They aren’t putting my dose up now as they are worried from my good progesterone month that I may over stimulate! Just fingers crossed we get baby made in the next 2 months and have a good few months xxx

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Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞🏻🤞🏻🤞🏻✨✨✨❤️❤️❤️xoxo

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Oh how lovely!! I’m so pleased for you 😘

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Thank you so much. All the best with your upcoming cycle 🤞🏻🤞🏻✨✨❤️❤️🌈 xoxo

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Such great news Jess! Really so happy for you.x

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Thank you very much. Hope all is going well with you xoxo

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Congratulations

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