Pre-transfer stress and triggered as no LH surge - any advice?

[Minniemouse88]

Hi, I hope you're are all well.

I'm awaiting my 5th and final transfer from my 1st round and feeling very anxious. I am doing natural cycles, but this time, clinic told me to trigger last night as no LH surge detected in bloods yet and they need to make sure I don't ovulate on Tuesday (to avoid Sunday closing for transfer).

I'm usually predictable in my cycles, with good cm signs around day 12/13, but this time I've been incredibly stressed and have had very little to no cm at all. The lack of fertile mucus is really bothering me and the main source of my anxiety. Now on cd15 and worried that triggering has pushed my body to do something it isn't ready for. Clinic assured me that lining and follicle size are good (10mm triple line and 16.7mm follicle) but I'm really stressed out and have had insomnia for several nights too.

I've tried all my usual relaxation techniques but nothing seems to be working to ease the pressure I feel. I've also started a new job fairly recently and it's been really stressful.

Does anyone have any positive outcomes from delayed ovulation cycles or when you have had extreme stress/insomnia pre-transfer? Any tips to get through to transfer day?

Thank you and take care x

[Cutecolliedog]

so sorry to hear you are having a hard time, I enjoyed my last natural cycle although did find it stressful and worried if I ovulated properly too. I would definitely trust your clinic, it sounds like you have a dominant follicle and your lining is amazing thickness!!

I’m the same if in a normal cycle I end up particularly stressed it can delay my ovulation. As far as I’m aware it doesn’t necessary impact implantation as this is just out of our control and down to the embryo!

Have you tried the headspace anxiety course? I find this really good for when I’m feeling anxious and they also have good sleep casts that help me get to sleep sometimes. xxx

[Minniemouse88 in reply to Cutecolliedog]

Thank you lovely. So nice and reassuring to hear. I'm definitely a headspace fan and regularly use the anxiety course and sleep casts - I think I'm just really good at overthinking and there's quite a bit of pressure with it being last embryo from this round.

I will trust clinic as you say. I did previously and think I've got myself too hyper vigilant over the last week.

Thank you again, so kind! Xx

[Cutecolliedog in reply to Minniemouse88]

ah good to hear another headspace fan!

I feel its impossible to be completely normal when you go through transfers and the 2ww as there is so much pressure on getting everything perfect. I’m exactly the same with the overthinking 🙄 Even the transfer I have just had I did have a few wobbles and worried about the timing as well! Think it’s only natural.

majority of the time there is literally nothing we can do to affect the outcome of the embryo implants or not!

I’m hoping to try and find a good tv series to get obsessed/stuck in with to try and make time go a bit faster too! Any recommendations?