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hi all I am new to this group. Me and my husband have been ttc since 2018 I feel like such a failure not able to be a mum. It’s my husband who has the problem but I love him but finding myself thinking what would my life be if I married a person with no ttc problem. I can’t go near people with babies or prams and just want to cry. I feel so guilty

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Here4ivfinfo

Hey! My partner is also the issue so I understand how you feel. Have you tried IVF at all yet? We’ve just completed our first cycle of ICSI. Waiting to see if the embryo sticks.

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Sarahbxx24 in reply toHere4ivfinfo

Yes we did back in 2018 we had icsi it worked but I lost it at 8 weeks

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Here4ivfinfo in reply toSarahbxx24

I’m so sorry for your loss and I’m also really sorry that you’ve been trying this long with no luck. It really sucks xxxx

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Sarahbxx24 in reply toHere4ivfinfo

Good luck

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Nabsal

dear try again now science and technology are amazing I am also trying my husband have issue . Please you try as well

Sorry to hear you are down. My partner has low sperm motility. Ivf didn't work for us but we finally managed to get pregnant naturally so also do give up on that way. We were told his sperm motility was really low. But we made sure he was taking good vitamins ect, not sure what worked in the end. I know how hopeless it feels. You will get there don't give up xxx

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Sarahbxx24 in reply to

Hi could you please pm me what vitamins he took hubby has low motility and count thankyou

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BettyLoVe in reply to

Hello,My husband and I are undergoing IVF treatments at the moments as well, and we had two failed transfers so far.

You mentioned that your husband took specific vitamins, if you could let me know which ones please? I have read so many things and in the end I don't even know what works and what not. Also they are expensive, so more information would be super helpful.

Thank you x

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Boo718

I am so sorry you’re feeling this way. Infertility is such a difficult journey. I remember at the beginning my husbands results came back and we had mfi he literally said to me I can understand if you want to leave me …. Absolutely no way. We are in this together. My results then came back and it was me too.

I am currently curled up on the bed with our beautiful little girl who arrived in June. It was a long journey for us and we did have to move on to donor (lots of issues with the 2 of us) but we did get there. Don’t give up hope xxx

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Here4ivfinfo in reply toBoo718

Do you mind sharing what was wrong with you and whether you had symptoms? Xx

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Sarahbxx24 in reply toBoo718

That brought a tear to my eyes enjoy your little one x

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Kitkat10

Don’t feel guilty, I felt exactly the same and still do some days. It’s a very natural way to feel and I reckon everyone on here understands how you feel 100%. Don’t give up, it’s very likely you’ll succeed, and in many ways male factor is more easily treatable.

I actually felt resentment towards my partner as it was MFI holding us up but once our little boy arrived and I saw what a good dad he is, things feel much better and they will for you too. Takes time and the wait is excruciating , I know that feeling well but hang in there, keep going 🍀🍀

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Rookery17

I know exactly how u feel I had my 1st isci in May I miscarried also at 8 weeks since then I feel a bit lost not sure where to go with it problems with both of us been trying naturally again it's so mentally draining but yesterday I got my head sorted IV changed clinics which means starting from scratch blood tests etc so see where we stand etc it's such a hard journey and wudnt wish this on anyone but uv got this!Good luck

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Sarahbxx24 in reply toRookery17

Good luck to you to x

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Babyhope8

I understand your situation. We started our fertility journey since 2018 after trying for 2 years. Initially I was diagnosed unexplained infertility, changed many clinics in these years more recently was told diminished ovarian reserve . I had only miscarriages and still north so far . I felt bad that I have dragged my husband into this gruesome journey , had he married someone else he would have been a father . I had honest discussion about this with him, he believes we are in this journey together . We may try different routes after all these failures but I can say for sure that if he had this problem I would have nvr left or regretted marrying him. I hope we remain this way for ever irrespective of the outcome . But it nvr is truly easy , we are. It childless by choice you see

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