Feeling like a bad friend

[Kicksy1990]

Hi Everyone,

I'm very new to this. And I know peoples journeys have been much harder than mine has been so far with this journey as were just at the beginning. But everyone seems so nice on here and I'm just after some advise..

Myself and my husband haven't really been trying too long ttc in the grand scheme of things, but I'm already down in the dumps about how quick people around me seem to conceive.

My close friend took three months and her sister took one weekend. Now it looks like my best friend is pregnant after two months of trying.

I have PCOS - she figured as we hadn't got pregnant straight away she wouldn't (strange logic I know!) but I'm finding it really difficult to be around her. I feel I should be jumping for joy but I just feel sad..is that normal? I feel so mean!

Husband is getting sperm test this month and and then it looks like I'll be given clomid to try and help.

Just feeling like a bad friend right now

Any advise on how to help deal with these emotions would the really help!

[Hidden]

Your absolutely not an bad friend at all. You're sad for you and what has been a longer journey for you both. You sound like you have started the ball rolling with your treatment and hopefully you will be sharing your good news with them soon xxxx

[Kicksy1990 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. Just felt so awful. Was fine until she left and then burst out crying to the hubby! Poor man 🙈xx

[Hidden in reply to Kicksy1990]

To reassure you, all those feelings are completely normal, it's hard hearing about individuals who fall pregnant at the drop of a hat or after short periods of time, be kind to yourself. So so normal and this will be corroborated by all the ladies on here xx

[Kicksy1990 in reply to Hidden]

Thanks so much xx think this one just hit me harder with it being such a close friend!

[N_M_10]

Totally normal reaction. It's not that you aren't happy for her, you just want it so badly for yourself too. Good luck with your treatment. xx

[Kicksy1990 in reply to N_M_10]

Thank you 🙂x

[abcgirl]

Definitely not a bad friend. This stuff is hard and even harder to know how to deal with it. I've been in the same mood - even to the point of not wanting to hold my friends baby... it would just be too Much. Finding it really hard to be happy for other people these days. Hang in there and focus on yourself. Be kind to yourself too.

[E_05]

Your definitely not a bad friend, you can be happy for her but feel so much pain for yourself. It sounds like a perfectly 'normal' reaction to me - It's a tough journey so make sure you look after yourself to. Wishing you lots of luck x

[Kicksy1990]

Thanks everyone! Knowing it's not just me being a little selfish has made me feel so much better!

[Hidden]

no you are not being a bad friend feeling like that. You can be happy for them but also sad for yourself and yes of course you feel like that its only natural as its normal to feel jealous when someone else gets something you want for yourself.

[Kicksy1990 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. Think it'll just take a bit of getting used to!

[7AVA]

Please read the posts on my page - I'm exactly the same! Be kind to yourself, your feelings are normal xxx

[Kicksy1990]

Hey thank you I've just read your latest one - there does seem to be a baby boom - why does it all come at once! Trying hard to be positive for both friends but I Seem to avoiding baby people! Makes it more raw it took them max of 2 months...Probably not healthy avoiding! but short term it seems to be helping. Thanks for replying and pointing out your post 🙂x

[7AVA in reply to Kicksy1990]

All the best Kicksy and be kind to yourself, we've all been there xxx

[Zowiey]

I echo what everyone else has said! You are not bad friend at all. I think we have all struggled with this. I still do now. But we are all on our own journeys and luckily we have the support of each other in this forum. One day it will happen for us ❤️ Stay positive xx