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[Annh17]

hey guys

so we have been trying for nearly 2 years for our 2nd and still no luck. We have our 1st hospital appointment- referred by doctors in June.

Have just found out 2 things- 1 our daughter transition date for primary school is on the same day and our hospital appointment letter says both have to attend, does anyone know if only 1 of us go attend? I really don’t wanna have to push everything back by 3-4 months

2nd thing just found out a family member is pregnant with number 2, obs I’m happy for her, but absolutely devestated at the same time. She was told she would only have 1% chance of having children naturally and now she’s 2nd.

Just feel very very upset right now

[CardiGrey]

Hi,

These journeys can be so tough especially when there are others around you who seem to be getting pregnant.

I know you wouldn’t want to miss your daughter’s transition day, but is there another member of the family who she would feel comfortable to take her? You could always call the hospital and ask to speak to the department that’s seeing you and ask if only one of you need to attend so the other can go to the transition day. My first appointment I went to without my partner as my blood tests had come back irregular they then just gave me a semen analysis form for him to book a separate appointment, so you may be able to go just you. The first appointment is likely to be consultation, lots of questions etc about how long you’ve been trying and lifestyle. That’s what mine was and then they went through my blood test results and initial treatment.

With your family member, it’s difficult to feel those mixed emotions but just think if she was told only 1% chance of getting pregnant naturally, there’s hope for you as well. You’ll also find a lot of hopeful stories on this forum.

I hope everything goes ok with your appointment and it’s the start of a journey to baby number 2 for you. Good luck.

[Annh17 in reply to CardiGrey]

thank you so much for this. My husband will take my daughter, I’m thinking of just going to the hospital by myself as like you say will be loads of questions which I can answer for my husband anyway.

I’m Hoping they will understand the situation and yes I’m not giving up, there’s still a chance and we are seeing someone which I didn’t think would happen till next year,

[Weareback2 in reply to Annh17]

I would honestly call and tell them. It may be a wasted appointment that someone else cpuld have. They will probably do consent forms etx. Hopefully they can give you a different time etc

[Annh17 in reply to Weareback2]

Next appointment is October though, which is a long way. I have no number to phone either 🙄

[Annh17 in reply to CardiGrey]

I also know that we are very lucky to already have a daughter, so many people out there who are dying to have their 1st or aren’t happy to have children at all. So I know how lucky we are, but my daughter is now asking questions- mummy when are you going to have a baby in your tummy, when am I going to have a sister or brother. Just breaks my heart for her