Navitaging friends' loss with your own

[honeybeanbee]

Hi lovely people,

We've just had our second loss (a chemical pregnancy following assisted conception) after not getting pregnant for over a year after our first loss. My husband invited his best mate and wife to visit us ages ago and this is fast approaching in a couple of weeks. Unfortuantely they had their first loss earlier this year.

Basically I feel so conflicted, it's lovely that hubby wants his friends to come and visit us in our new home, and my friends are also coming. But this extra layer of the pregnancy loss for them and us is making it difficult for me and I don't know how to feel if they want to talk about it, if they're pregnant again or how painful it's still going to be for them and I am not in the headspace to give them any support after our loss and continuing treatment.

I hope I don't sound like a horrible person but I'm at a loss as I really want to cancel but feel like it would be good for hubby?! Please help xx

[Ranchu90]

The simplest way to avoid heartache is just to try to avoid subjects about babies, pregnancy, losses etc...just enjoy their visit and talk about houses, disign etc... I been doing this so many times in the past, I could easily control the subjects we were discussing and I could divert them in whatever way I wanted them to be in my house 😁. Take the control and everything will be fine. Don't think about it and stress, there is no point. I am sure you have other more important things to stress about. I am sorry for your loss ♥️🤗, stay strong and brave 😘