Pregnancy loss and bicornuate uterus

[Nat1302]

Hello everyone,

I have been posting quite a lot lately, it is great to have a place where you can write how you feel and not being judge for it. I have been told that I'm going through pregnancy loss, so anytime I will be losing what I wanted the most... the doctors are certain as I just won't stop bleeding and the pain is getting worse. 6 and half weeks pregnant and that's it, everything has vanished, sometimes I do wonder if I have done something wrong or if I'm just not good enough to be a mum, probably is not my purpose? Don't know.. I'm absolutely broken...I also have bicornuate uterus, I'm unsure whether thats the reason why im going to loose this pregnancy and I had a chemical pregnancy in March. I have read that it can be fixed? Not sure... im also unsure whether I want to go through this again...

I have also find out that my sister is pregnant... again.. which does not help, she just had a baby (the girl is 3 months old) and she is pregnant again... she hasn't told anyone.. just me which is kind of piss taking (sorry for my language) so I cannot speak about it with anyone as nobody knows.

Thank you for reading me

Love to all xx

[Hidden]

Ohh Nat1302 I can really empathise with you. Life is just so cruel and unfair sometimes. Baby loss is a terrible thing to go through and I know there’s lots of women on here that have experienced the same thing (including me -we were forced to terminate due to abnormalities at wk 13 back in Feb). I also completely get how difficult it can be when those closest to you seemingly get pregnant at the drop of a hat. It’s not fair and you’ve every right to feel upset and frustrated. Ive found i’ve distanced myself from friends that have young children as a form of self preservation. I think you need to take the time to regroup and recharge and then try and decide what’s best for you. Whatever you do I promise that there’s hope out there and that this forum and the lovely women on it completely have your back! You are not alone. Xx

[Nat1302 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you for your lovely message, really helps to be able to speak up. I'm really sorry for your loss, incredibly hard. Hope we can all look at a brighter future, lots of love ❤

[IVFat40]

I'm so terribly sorry to hear what you're going through, I can't imagine how incredibly painful it must be. I can relate to what you're saying about having thoughts and feelings around whether I've done something wrong/shouldn't be a Mum anyway; when I've got my logical head on I know it's not true, but at other times those thoughts come in for me too.l also wanted to reach out as I noticed you said you have a bicornuate uterus; I've very recently found out I also have one (my recent transfer was difficult and painful and they think this was the cause). I feel quite confused about what the impact of this may or may not be, for me the issue is implantation failure (I've had 5 blastocysts fail to implant, currently in the TWW following a FET of 2 more).

[Nat1302 in reply to IVFat40]

Hello IVFat40 I wish you luck on your FET fingers crossed for you. I'm not sure how much bicornuate uterus affects fertility, I just know that I dont seem to hold them, bicornuate uterus can be corrected though... I believe so at least wishing you lots of luck and big hugs

[IVFat40 in reply to Nat1302]

Thank you so much hun.And you too for the future.

[Ivf2020A]

My heart breaks for you hun im so sorry your going through this and the added pressure of watching others getting pregnant is horrible- so dont beat yourself up about all of these very normal feelings x I just wanted to say thinking of you and sending 💗 your way x

[Birdbaby]

Hi Nat1302 I’m really sorry to hear you’re going through this. No words I can say will make you feel better. You know you’ll always get support on this forum. There’s also counselling available at clinics so this might be an option for you.

It’s difficult hearing about other pregnancies but more so when the person already has a child.

Take some time out and do what you need to do for yourself. I know easier said than done but take it easy and let others take care of you. X

[Hidden]

So sorry for your loss, it is devastating and only time will heal you. Its definitely not something you have done, sometimes its absolutely rotten luck, sometimes there is a medical reason which is more often than not a chromosomal issue - it doesnt mean it won't work next time and a lot of women who have one or two MCs go on to have a healthy pregnancy or three!

Re the bicornuate uterus - I had this and I had it resected via surgery. It was very quick and easy to do and they basically just cut off the dividing tissue that was making it heart shaped. It was about a 45 minute op. It does depend a bit on the extent of the septum but sounds like yours is operable so I wouldn't hesitate to have it done to get you in great shape for next time xx

[Nat1302 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you I will definitely will arrange for this to be checked out before I go for another go. I still have 1 frozen embryo so I need to do as much as I can for it to work. Thank you xx

[Penelopemay]

I had my daughter with a full blown bicornuate uterus fast forward years later after it was found by my IVF dr they wanted it removed. I went for the surgery and it was about a 6 week recovery with drains and a balloon inside me for 10 days. I then had a faild IVF transfer with twins, then a chemical pregnancy with another set of twins. On my third transfer I got a BFP but that pregnancy ended at 20 weeks due to TFMR. So it is possible to get pregnant with it and after the surgery if you go that route.

[Nat1302 in reply to Penelopemay]

Thank you for sharing your experience, I will think about, I really want to go to the doctor again to find out why this has happened if any explanation is found. Last time I had a chemical and this time a miscarriage, probably is nothing to do with the shape of uterus, however I can't help by blaming myself for it.