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Hi, Who had their FET done today like me;or recently? Let's support eachother on this crazy waiting game.

this is my 5th transfer, the 4th fet worked with a nearly 2 year old girl now.

I'm 42, and was the oldest gal in the day surgery today😅🙊

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DianeArnoldPartnerNurseFertility Network UK

HI Flutterbby. Just hoping this is the one for you. Good luck! Diane

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Flutterbby in reply to DianeArnold

thanks:) a sibling for the 2 year old I hope

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WilfG

Hi Flutterbby,

I had my first 5D blast transferred on 5.10.22 and in the 2WW! I just posted actually as BFN 9DPT this morning 😔 Official test is 18.10.22.

Best of luck to you! The wait is not very pleasant. X

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Flutterbby in reply to WilfG

how are you going today?

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WilfG in reply to Flutterbby

Hi Flutterbby,

I’ve been bleeding since Saturday and a BFN yesterday so all over for me.

Will complete the OTD tomorrow and then call the clinic to understand the next steps. Do you know how long you wait before trying again? We have 1 frostie.

How are you? I’ve got everything crossed for a BFP for you! Keep us posted 🙂 🙏 xx

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Flutterbby

ohh sorry that one was an at home bfn, but hang in there theres been lots of later sucesses on here x :)? What was your grading if you don't mind saying...

😅

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WilfG in reply to Flutterbby

Hey,

I haven’t lost all hope just yet… but it’s nerve wracking! Just clinging on to hope it was too early to test.. Drives you mad googling the symptoms…

I’m not sure, sounds ridiculous doesn’t it! All I can remember them saying is both were high quality but can’t remember the grade 🤦🏼‍♀️

Just checked the portal and although we have photos of the blasts and info on the 1 in the freezer it doesn’t state the grades as far as I can see.

Good enough to freeze though 🙂 and the first transferred back to me was the higher grade. Xx

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Flutterbby

yes the dreaded symptom spotting...last time I used to imagine I could feel implanting like a scratchy sensation:

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monkee641

Hey lovely, I had my FET on Wednesday, so I’m now 3 days post 5 day transfer. We had 2 lovely blasts transferred. Sadly we didn’t have any more make it to day 5 that we were able to freeze. But we’re staying positive!! Not feeling too bad so far with regards to the wait, altho naturally it’s constantly on my mind.

I too am 40, so I think it’s even scarier!! I think I was by far the oldest on EC day ☺️ X

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Flutterbby in reply to monkee641

thoughts are with you:)!

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Flutterbby in reply to monkee641

any good news or positive signs yet for you?

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monkee641 in reply to Flutterbby

I’ve been holding off on home testing. I’m quite stubborn and good at waiting. It is constantly on my mind tho!! I wish I could see inside to see how they’re getting on.

I’m getting an awful lot of cramping, it feels like very bad period pains. And my boobs are really sore and swollen. My mind is telling me ‘oh it could be signs of pregnancy’ but I’m trying to quash that thought as soon as it comes, as it’s maybe just side effects of the Crinone gel. It is torture isn’t it, honestly, when all you can do it wait.

How are you holding up? X x

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Flutterbby in reply to monkee641

you are very patiently waiting without testing, what a big surprise for you it's going to be:)

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hifer

Good luck. I’ll be very nearly 44 when I have my transfer next month so I know exactly how you feel. Everything crossed for you x

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Flutterbby in reply to hifer

excellent achievement to get this far for us all x

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Ubeeten8

Hey ladies! I’m 42 and had 2 embryos transferred on Wednesday. Trying to remain calm xx easier said than done

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Flutterbby in reply to Ubeeten8

ohh lovely t be sharing the waiting game with you, and hey best of luck to you:))

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Ubeeten8 in reply to Flutterbby

thank you so much! All the best to us all 😊

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Flutterbby in reply to Ubeeten8

when will you begin testing if you do at home?

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Ubeeten8 in reply to Flutterbby

if I can hold out till Friday then il be so proud of myself! I haven’t bought the tests yet but as soon as I do I know I won’t be able to help myself. I have always thought I would rather know earlier and prepare myself. I have had 2 frozen transfers, one negative and one early chemical.

What day will you test? Any symptoms yet? I just have a little white discharge xx

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Flutterbby in reply to Ubeeten8

sounds good for you:) I have bloating, fatigue, scratchy sensation in uterus sometimes (in bed still at night), vivid dreams, lots of weeing, constipation, looking good for me at 3dp

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Ubeeten8 in reply to Flutterbby

oh that’s so exciting! Fingers crossed x

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Flutterbby in reply to Ubeeten8

I'll test Friday too although you two ( monkey and ubeeten had your fet Wednesday, mine Friday. Hoping for great news to both of you Wednesday "Fetters"

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monkee641 in reply to Ubeeten8

You’re at the same stage as me 🥰. I’m 40 and also had 2 transferred. I’m trying to stay positive.

Keeping everything crossed for us x x

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Ubeeten8 in reply to monkee641

yes - everything crossed!

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Mdms

Hi! Yes, the waiting is dreadful yet somehow I feel calmer this time. This is my 7th transfer (all 6 previous failed). I’ve had 3 natural pregnancies, with a beautiful 5.5 year old from my first. Fingers crossed for you! I’ve had fairly strong cramps and back pain since transfer but I attribute it to the progesterone as I’ve had slightly different symptoms each time with no success! Hope the time flies by for you and you find a way to distract yourself until OTD 😊

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Flutterbby in reply to Mdms

the one good thing about having a life that keeps us busy enough with worrying about another child is that we are helped distract from symptom spotting and being a serial pee on a stick lady😆. When will you test from?

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Mdms in reply to Flutterbby

I was going to hold out to OTD but decided to test this morning (5dp5dt) - BFN. I was curious whether maybe they are implanting but not sticking around to try and shed some light on this. My symptoms stopped yesterday but this morning they are back in full force and feeling certain that it wasn’t a success this time. I have one more 5d frozen but after that have decided to call it quits. It is all taking too much of a toll on me and my family. When will you test?

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Flutterbby in reply to Mdms

its good news your symptoms returned, stay positive girlfriend:) what's been happening today?

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Mdms

Thanks, I’m trying - just have learned not to get my hopes too high. Still lots of cramps - like my next cycle is about to start. How about you?

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Flutterbby

how are we all going on this thread?

I'm 5dpt now increasing symptoms like appetite, increased body temp, very slightly sore boobs in the upper outer location.

Ohh I just want us all to get our positives

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Mdms in reply to Flutterbby

Sorry, I tried to stay off for a bit because was obsessing - unfortunately I did not get my positive. I was due to have my final transfer this month but ovulated too early. Hope you got your positive!

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Flutterbby in reply to Mdms

Was negative too. And was obsessing too:( sorry to hear. How many tf have u had in the past if u don't mind me asking? And Ur final tf? Does that mean u won't be going again? Stay strong:) next time u can try

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Mdms in reply to Flutterbby

That was my 7th transfer - I have one more embryo frozen and will turn 40 at the end of December so have had enough. There is no reason it isn’t working that can be identified, I’ve done PGT for some as well and have tried everything. I’ve been pregnant naturally 3 times (first two the first month trying) - I have an incredible nearly 6 yo daughter, and then lost our second daughter when I was 20 was pregnant in 2018 and then had a missed miscarriage April 2020 - but I can’t do it anymore. Life has been on hold for so long working around IVF and I need that not too be the case anymore for my own well-being as well as my family.

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Flutterbby in reply to Mdms

I understand that's some difficult clouds hanging over you/ us. One more chance sounds lovely 😍 please stay in touch, and I'll pm you:)

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Mdms in reply to Flutterbby

How are you? Have you tried again? I missed a transfer on my next cycle because I ovulated early but just had my final embryo transfer Friday - so day 4 of 2ww now! Hope you are well! 😀

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NC88

Thie is my First FET after a couple of years of failed OI's, I developed a UTI the night after my transfer 17th October and now have crazy bad cramping/bloating/wind. Just wanting aome positivity or reassurance 🤦🏻‍♀️❤️

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Flutterbby in reply to NC88

positive vibes your way:) how many days post to are you Nc:)?

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NC88 in reply to Flutterbby

I'm now 6 days post, I have heavy bleeding now

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Flutterbby

hi ladies I'm so out. I felt so great up til 5dpt, then my vivid dreams, but most importantly no more implanting scratching and the general feeling of positivity of success had left.

I want to keep checking up on you all though xo

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Mdms

sorry to hear that flutterbby. I had such positive hopes this time too - was seeing a therapist, doing injections and immunosuppressants plus aspirin. Will you try again?

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Flutterbby in reply to Mdms

Yeah, will try again 🙄:)

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