how do you cope with end of the road? *sensitive post*

[Lucypea15]

last year, I had a positive embryo transfer however lost the baby at 19 weeks in December. I was broken and thought I wouldn’t be able to try again for my own mental health.

I have since had three FETs (May, June and this last one end of August) and none have resulted in pregnancy. I’m devastated. I won’t be trying again due to costs (we’ve done all four privately in Spain).

I’m not sure how to deal with the grief I feel inside. My husband is very supportive but I feel so lost and alone 💔

[Mlove12]

Hi Lucy

I’m so sorry to hear you’ve gone through such loss and heartache, i cant even imagine.

If you and your partner feel it’s too much expense and stress on your body to keep going, then it’s definitely the right thing to stop putting yourselves through it. Although it’s a lot to manage, take time for yourselves, allow yourselves to feel sad, angry, upset, frustrated, vent it all out! Then take time for the both of you, days out or holidays, doing things you love and that bring you happiness. It wont be a short journey or a quick process, but time is healer. I hope you have people around who can support you. Xxx

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Be sure to have people around you who can support you and allow yourself time to grieve

There are support groups on fertilitynetworkuk.org that maybe helpful at this time for you and your OH

Sending you a big hug

Janet