Just had our 1st FET 5 days ago. I'm not entirely sure about the number in front of the letters, I think they said 4BB. I know for sure it's BB and that it was a Day 5 embryo. I'm on estradiol and progesterone. Nothing else to remark, I'm not thinking about my symptoms since they're mostly irrelevant if you're on the pills.
Currently, I'm having these really down moments where I can't concentrate at work and just break down and cry as I think about receiving negative blood results 7 days from now. My husband says it's better to NOT get my hopes up. For him this is working well it seems. Others tell me to stay positive. I know by now that it isn't possible for me to anticipate and then feel less devastation later on; I know I will simply be completely devastated no matter what I try to do. And I've tried the post-embryo transfer meditation on Spotify, it's been helpful but I still have nightmares in my sleep...
Starting to feel hopeless again....
Not really looking for advice necessarily but just want to hear how others experience post-FET emotions...
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I’m so sorry, this really is an awfully tough experience. I know everyone copes differently. In my head I have hope that it will work one day (and that it could be my child has no genetic connection to me or my partner but that’s ok, it certainly takes the pressure off us). I guess all of this is completely outside our circle of control and we have no influence over it. With my last transfer I basically managed to accept the odds, and carried on life as normal. I did get pregnant but we lost him late on. I’ll be having a FET soon and I’m trying to get myself into a balanced headspace.. I certainly have experienced fluctuating emotions post transfer before. I remember feeling so positive on the day of my first fresh transfer then sobbing 24 hours later!.. With time, I suppose I somehow got used to it and emotions were still difficult but it was a little easier to distract from them.. Have you much planned over the next week? X
Oh god thank you for your message and confirming that the emotions are just so difficult... I was feeling so alone like everybody was talking about how to get through the wait by watching Netflix or whatever, and not necessarily mentioning what emotions they're going through. I find it absolutely terrifying. That super uneasy feeling of this possibly again ending up in a failure, as if it's a confirmation that this would never happen for us.... Or being too afraid to be hopeful as I'd only have myself to blame when I'm devastated.. I feel like I'm basically on the verge of tears everyday 😣 I feel as if I have little energy to spend on others and tried not to plan seeing many people at a time, so I've just got my usual activities, workouts, go to volleyball practice, meditate and relax... Some nights I sleep peacefully but other nights I have nightmares of having yet another negative result. Sorry for the rant...
I'm terribly sorry to hear about your loss... I sincerely wish you all the best in your upcoming FET. Have you tried the post-embryo transfer meditation on Spotify?
I got so hung up on the quality as my first two transfers which were 'best quality' didn't work. Then my 2:2 which I'm guessing is similar to BB worked and is currently 12 weeks old. Fingers crossed for you! Take things day by day, you've got this. X
Thanks for this! Indeed, everything is due to the pills probably... since a few days, I do pee more often i.e. have to get up at 6am to go to the toilet, which I never did in the past. And last night I had some period like cramps. I know it can all be due to the estradiol and/or progesterone I'm taking, so 'm trying to keep calm and carry on.
Hi Patience. Your luttle one is back inside you where he/she belongs. Try not to worry too much about grading, as embryologists all use different methods. If your little one has taken then he.she will soon catch up. Keep up with any prescribed medication, Folic Acid and Vitamin D and test on the day recommeneded by your clinic. Thinking of you. Diane
Thanks Diane. I'm breathing and meditating... Only 4 more days so I can hang on until then... I'm expecting a negative result now, so I took a day off work on OTD so that I can weep and grieve...
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