Just diagnosed with fertility issues

[Springsunshine22]

Yesterday my partner and I were told we both have fertility issues. I dont have any children, my partner has 2 from a previous relationship. I'm beyond devastated. My partner is however has a different view - it is what it is. Whilst there are potential options he is refusing to even consider them. He feels we are to old (I'm 39 in a few weeks and he's 41); the risks associated with having a child at our age and having a child will impact our quality of life.

My emotions are all over the place... anger, hatred, resentment. Is this normal?

I feel we should consider at least one round of IVF, just so I can say "we've (I) tried".

Has anyone else experienced similar? If so, how did you deal with it?

[Pnw2020]

Hi.Everyone’s situation is different but there could be reasons you’re partner isn’t telling you. My partner wasn’t initially keen to do ivf and I don’t think you can pressurise them as it’s a huge decision once you get on the ivf rollercoaster.

I would try and talk things through again but also consider fertility counselling.

See BICA website.

Attending some free online ivf clinic webinars is a good idea to understand more about the process.

On the point of age you are not too old. I am 40 and pregnant and my age is rarely mentioned. They will obviously be sacrifices to make if you do ivf due to the huge cost but the way I see it it prepares your for having a child.

On the point of one round, I would say that it is rare to do just one if not successful but then you might get a good number of embryos to freeze and then have several chances. However some people ( including me ) don’t get any embryos to freeze so then you start again from the beginning. Access Fertility do good packages with includes fresh cycles and all FET before another fresh cycle if needed. For me even with no FET it worked out a bit cheaper.

Hope that helps x