Start of FET 😬

Morning ladies, I’m having a bit of a moment! I’ve finally started my FET today after our last round of treatment in the summer which ended in a MMC. This pretty much broke me. It was without a doubt my biggest challenge to date and took everything I have to come out the other side. My husband is great but doesn’t really get it. I feel the pressure is on me. Im excited to start again but also really scared of it going wrong again. I’m literally driving myself nuts googling which is adding to my anxiety, I just can’t seem to stop. It’s a way of me trying to get some control in a situation where I feel I have very little. I can’t even blame the hormones as I only had my first injection and patch this morning 😏. I just need to get a grip. Any words of wisdom would be gratefully received xx

[Millbanks]

Oh love - so sorry to hear about your MMC - so hard to process.

My advice for this cycle would be to take it one step at a time. I know it's hard but try not to think ahead.... If you find yourself worrying or daydreaming, just pull yourself back to the present and refocus on today and today only.

With my last FET I literally stopped myself thinking ahead at all - I just found things to distract myself, like reading a book, or baking some awful things, or going for a walk, or chatting to friends about non-ivf stuff.

It helped me so much. I also found that gentle yoga helped to control my brain a bit and make me feel like I'm doing something positive to help - try Bettina Rae's youtube videos.

If you think you've noticed a symptom, acknowledge it, write it down and move on. Don't sit there analysing every single twinge, because you will have absolutely no clue if its the meds, the embryo or your mind!

I know it's not easy at the moment, but try to plan a few nice things with your OH - maybe a walk with lunch in a pub - or a date night in a quiet cinema - some things to look forward to so you're not completely focused on your FET all the time.

Lots of luck to you xxx

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Thank you so much for your reply and helpful advice. I’ve got my acupuncture later today which usually helps, I will give some yoga a try. I love baking but I’ve stopped doing it as the moment. We have our wedding in June (which has been postponed four times due to Covid) and I need to lose a stone to fit into my dress 😬🙈if I’m lucky enough to be pregnant before the wedding I will gladly buy a new dress but cannot face buying a new one otherwise 🤣 xxx