Hi all, just a little update to say that I finally got my first BFP on Wednesday.
I was so stunned, but it seems true!
I’m writing and sharing this because in the past I have looked for hope from other members and when I’ve seen that they were sharing similar problems (failures or symptoms etc) I have often looked at their posts to see if they were successful in the end, and it always gave me hope if they were.
It’s early days, I still have to have my first scan and have to go through other stages and more waiting, ohhh the waiting is hard, but today it is real.
So, for me and my partner of 10 years this was a journey of lots of years of not using protection, then two years of properly trying and no pregnancy. I am 39 and he is ten years older.
We eventually got some NHS testing which showed initially a low sperm count and morphology, which later went back to normal… we don’t know why, perhaps vitamins helped and no baths etc?
My results didn’t bring up anything so in the end as a couple we seemed to have unknown reasons for our fertility issues, as on paper everything seemed fine for both of us.
Roll on referrals and all that madness we had our first go, which ultimately failed in March but gave us two frosties left from this process .
Then this second round starting in June with a 5 day FET, resulting in a BFP on Wednesday 10th July, to be continued…
During my 2WW I felt very similar to how I did when my first round failed, lots of cramping, no implantation bleeding for me, lots of overthinking and trying hard to get through the days. So my symptoms didn’t tell me so much really as to what to expect, but I didn’t get a period. And then there it was, the words pregnant on my test. What a turn of events.
So, that’s where I’m at so far…
I really am thinking of all my brave fertility warriors, it’s a hard slog and I’m amazed at what we can all brave through, and I wish you all (and myself) continued success. This network and the support has really helped me, so thank you to you all xxx
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Thank you much. We’re all in this together hoping that we can just have what we’ve wanted. It’s such a sensitive experience and we all know how hard it is xxxx
Congratulations! 🎉 Your story is so inspiring. Wishing you all the best for the upcoming scans and stages. Thank you for sharing your journey—it gives so much hope to others. x
Amazing news! Do you mind sharing if you did anything differently in preparation for your frozen? I’m 37 and our fresh has just failed so we will be moving on to our frozen.
I did take up therapy, because I found the unknown of the outcome and the waiting very very hard last time, and I think it helped me to be a bit less stressed this time, not to say that I escaped it fully as I certainly did loose that battle at moments and did a lot of overthinking with every little body twinge etc, but still I think it helped me emotionally, although I don’t know if that effected the outcome.
Also, I found this round more predictable and for me easier as I knew what to expect and also as I was having a FET I felt less effects from the injections (as didn’t have to do them) than I did on the first round, so I was a bit less fragile. I tried to take one short walk a day and not be on the couch all day, which I found I was doing a lot of last time as I didn’t feel great and felt very full and uncomfortable in my ovaries.
I tried really hard to not engage in any major stressful situations, last time I had a few really stressfully obligations outside of the treatment, but this time I declined anything that I felt might be overwhelming or difficult for me.
But honestly, I don’t know if any of it made a difference. I think this time it just worked perhaps and for an unknown reason it didn’t last time… so I’d say just try to remember what you found hard last time and what helped you get through it and put that in place this next time!
It’s hard not to think it won’t work when we already feel somewhat infertile (for lack of a better way of putting it), especially when we’ve had a transfer fail and reinforce that feeling. But really it can work, for us all it’s sort of 50/50 so to try and just go with it and keep that in mind. And also I found that my symptoms where the same practically from when it failed to this BFP, so I wish I’d allowed myself not to worry so much (but it’s so hard) as I sort of tortured myself a bit for no reason.
I hope that all makes sense and I really wish you all the best for this next transfer xxxxx and fingers crossed for me, still lots to go yet till I’m where I wanna be ! X
Thanks so much. The nurse said try to enjoy it, it’s difficult but I’m trying to focus on now, really hoping it is ok at the scan but will just have to wait and see. More waiting 🙈💕
massive massive congratulations! One given me hope! I’ve just had a failed transfer, still bleeding. I’ve got two Frosties in the freezer !!! I hope and pray that I’ll have this turn out like you with a booming positive. Congratulations again ❤️ sending hugs and love ❤️
I’m so sorry to hear about your transfer, I found my fail quite tough, I’m thinking of you. Will be following your journey and so hoping it works out for you soon! You got this! X
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