Just have to vent

[MrsSTM]

Hi guys, I'm going through my 1st ivf cycle. We're nhs so it's taken almost 2 years to get here (plus had one miscarriage and one chemical earlier in the year). I'm 38 and my DH's 45, with male factor so we're having icsi.

We were meant to start during my Sept cycle but got a kidney infection so started on Oct cycle instead. Have been on buserelin injections for about 3 weeks and AF was really late, so now had 2 scans this week which confirm lining isn't thin enough to start on stims yet.

But here's the thing - after the 1st scan, I get a phone call from the clinic telling me my cycle's gonna be cancelled because I won't make EC/ET before they close for Christmas. NO ONE told me the clinic closes, it's part of a big NHS hospital so I assumed they could do these any day. I can't believe when I rang them on day 1 to register the start of my cycle no one told me this information. I would've waited till my next cycle had I known that I'd very likely be cancelled mid-cycle.

I was so upset and angry and it massively stressed me out, which actually meant that AF finally came (!) so I've got one last chance on Monday to see if my lining's thin enough. Even if I do proceed to stims, the EC might fall over Christmas and still be cancelled. Has this happened to anyone else? It's just so hard doing this anyway without this extra stress that could've easily been avoided if they'd communicated with us better....

[Capps8]

Hey sorry for all the stress. I’ve also just found this out. We’re about to do 3rd transfer and my natural cycle has been crazily wrong. I was thinking of delaying but St Barts said they won’t do in Dec as the drs have time off for xmas. So we’re going ahead next week now. It is a little crazy but then I don’t want some fill in embryologist doing my transfer. You just want everything to happen smoothly. When you’ve been waiting so long every month makes me crazy too. Deep breath!!!!

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi MrsSTM. Oh dear not what you want to happen. All I can say is that at least it has been cancelled before egg collection got under way. Sadly I think there will be more cancellations leading up to Christmas. I would have thought they could have warned yo though. Thinking of you. Diane

[Sagitaria]

Hi,I get your frustration. They should have told you. I got my egg collection a few weeks ago and they told me we had to wait to do the transfer for one or two months, but then they said I had to wait til Jan. Now I know we have to wait longer because of Christmas 😕 Not happy either. I’m also NHS and as you said, waiting for 2 years and now all this is too much…

[Belangalo]

I had an FET cancelled over Christmas last year. I was so upset because I was taking meds and then I ovulated naturally when they kept saying I wouldn't. 😒 I repeatedly told they that I ovulated naturally and don't need assistance to ovulate...who knows who's file they were looking at because it surely wasn't mine.

I understand how upsetting this is. You are more than entitled to be angry and upset. IvF is stressful enough without this added crud. I really hope that it all works out in the best way for you. Take care and good luck!

[Millbanks]

It’s so frustrating isn’t it!! I had several issues with information not being passed on correctly through the NHS and it caused a lot of stress. At one point they lost my entire folder of notes 😱

I had an FET cancelled due to a cyst which was beyond anyone’s control but I’d also been on buserelin for 2 weeks and it felt so f****** annoying to have to stop and waste all that time and injections… sorry you’re going through this xx

[Purpledoggy]

I believe clinics have to close every 6 months or so to have a deep clean (that is what my clinic told me anyway, which is an NHS clinic - I had to wait to start my first cycle around them closing for this purpose). What is not helpful is they did not explain this to you and make sure you were not likely to fall foul of clinic closing - it is not great planning on their part! So, not surprised you are feeling peeved! xx