Crazy thoughts

[Mtorr]

Sorry to bring all my anguish upon you all… I am 7 weeks pregnant with twins, this was my third ivf transfer the first two were fresh 5 day transfers and this one was a frozen 5 day transfer and I got 2 embryos transferred and thank the Lord I am pregnant with twins went to my 6 week scan and babies were good size and we were able to hear their heartbeat 💓 so then why am I so nervous so scared that I babies won’t make it to 8 week scan which is due in a couple days? Today is just one of those days for me

[Jonesy84]

Hi lovely! Firstly congrats on your pregnancy with your beautiful twins 🥰How you are feeling is totally normal! These special babies are so wanted and going through the hurdles of IVF that when it actually happens and works it can take a while to sink in.

For me I stopped worrying once I got to the 20 week scan. I didn’t have anything to suggest I should be worrying but I was just so scared this special thing would be taken from me.

That was the turning point for me as I thought if I don’t start to enjoy the pregnancy I will probably be annoyed with myself. Especially when Bubs was being the strong one and growing and getting stronger with each scan.

I did have a few private scans as we went along to say hello and check in which really helped.

Wishing you all the best with your pregnancy and try to enjoy it as it is a very special moment 🥰❤️Xx

[Mtorr in reply to Jonesy84]

Thank you 🙏 so much… congratulations on your pregnancy as well and it’s true we struggle a lot to get to this point that I am scared it’s going to go away…. I’m just so scared my babies won’t be there at my 8 weeks scan I have been on google almost everyday trying to see what can go wrong with my babies

[Jonesy84 in reply to Mtorr]

Step away from google😂 I can’t say I didn’t google like mad but to be honest I think that made me worse as you will always be able to find something that will stick in your mind and worry about. I found listening to music helped to calm me so try doing something that would normally relax you when you next try to reach out to google xx

[AuroraXen]

I know it's hard but try to relax 😌 There's no reason to think your babies won't be OK! Huge congratulations to you, this is such a blessing. And definitely try to stop googling 😂 xx

[Pnw2020]

Congratulations! I understand how you are feeling as I was in the same position not very long ago. I had an early scan when I received the news it was twins and probably spent a few weeks absorbing that news and then worrying if they both develop. I opted for the Harmony test so had a further scan at 10/11 weeks. Then the NHS scan at 12 weeks. Opted for a further private scan at 15/16 weeks which was probably the most reassuring. Accept that it is normal to worry and try and take each day and week at a time but consider counselling via your clinic. Wishing you a successful pregnancy x

[MrsOrangejuice]

My two fresh transfers earlier this year ended around 6 weeks. My first FET worked but because of the prior losses I was convinced the FET wouldn't work or that it would go the same way. I had a private scan at 5 and a bit weeks - I knew it was a risk that there may not be anything to see but I wanted to know if there was anything vaguely where it should be at that stage and it was more a feeling of just get the bad news over with. Then I had one at 7 weeks, 9 weeks, 12... At 12 weeks everything was fine and I was told to think of this as a 'normal, boring' pregnancy and to get out of the fertility treatment/anxiety mindset. But each time I've had a scan I am convinced they will say it's gone and when it's ok the relief is incredible and i'm able to relax and enjoy it for a couple of weeks - I am probably addicted to that emotional cycle now! I hope when the little one starts to move more regularly that will help give reassurance but I suspect every first time mother is anxious and add to that the emotions, time, physical and mental toll and financial pressures of fertility treatment... But equally there is no reason for anything to be wrong. Hopefully your 8 week scan will give you some peace of mind x

[JoyfulStar]

Hi Mtorr, I can so relate to this and even thought about writing a post on how to cope with fear once you get that BFP! It is a tough one and one that never really goes away completely even as things progress.

The only advice I can give is take each day at a time. As long as nothing untoward happens, that is a good sign. I literally spent the first few weeks of my pregnancy checking my knickers for signs of bleeding and gave thanks to God every time it was clear. When I started feeling confident at around 10 weeks, had bleeding that scared hubby and I but after going to the Early Pregnancy Unit, found out it was all fine after all. Did not share my news on here until after 14 weeks as my 12 week scan was late.

At about 20 weeks, I convinced myself that it was counterproductive to be ruled by fear! Yes Google and other people’s negative stories can make that fear worse so try to focus on you and your family and concentrate on the good. Your last scan was positive so no reason why the next scan will not be. Each stage ticked off is good, so ride on the high of your last scan for as long as you can x

Things ease a little when you start feeling movement. Just hang on in there and try thinking positive thoughts. Talk to DH- sometimes they can be the voice of reason- I know mine was! I will have you in my prayers🙏🏾

[Twiglet2]

Congratulations 🥰 in my experience what you are feeling is totally understandable and honestly, even though it eased for me as the weeks went past, it never really stopped until into my 3rd trimester when I finally decided it was happening and allowed myself and others to buy baby things! Tips that helped me:

-Private scans- do these as often as you need in between the nhs ones to calm your mind (they were £50 and I had about 5 of them in total with the reassurance it gives you lasting a few weeks for me)

-Stay away from google- if you have any concerns about something just phone your midwife or consultant google sends you down a rabbit hole of panic about everything!

-Remember what will be will be- there’s really not much you can do to change what’s going to happen next except take it easy and take your vitamins etc so whilst I won’t tell you not to worry at all, as it’s almost impossible not to, I reminded myself that it didn’t have any purpose and that past outcomes doesn’t mean that it will be the same this time so I tried not to ‘meet trouble halfway’.

-talk to people, I was a bit embarrassed to tell people how anxious I was, even my other half, but the more I spoke about it the more it helped and instead of laughing at me like I thought people would they were really supportive and understanding.

Hope that helps and time goes quickly until you’re next scan 🤗 so delighted for your news xx

[Mtorr]

Thank you all so much for your words that really helps me and puts my mind to ease a bit 🙏 you all are so wonderful I pray everything goes well for each and everyone of you all blessings and my next scan is Wednesday till then I will try my best to just relax you all have a blessed weekend

[Twins2022]

Just checking in to see how you are doing as they must be almost ready to meet the world by now!

[Mtorr in reply to Twins2022]

Blessings my twins arrived 06/13/2022 via c-section at 36 weeks and 4 days… baby boy weighed 6 lbs 18 in and baby girl weighed 6.7 19 in… thanks so much for checking up 🥰🥰

[JoyfulStar in reply to Mtorr]

A massive congratulations. Really happy for you. I do hope you got to enjoy your pregnancy despite the anxieties. 💕