A friend with a difficult journey...but she is a fighter

[MammaMia86]

Before I start please if there is anyone who feels identified with this situation please don't feel offended.

Today I was with my best friend, who I have known since we were 5 years old, so I have a very good relationship with her sisters and her sister's friends.

I asked her how one of these friends was doing because precovid she had a very difficult miscarriage, the baby was 4 1/2 months old and had malformations. It turns out that since then they have been undergoing fertility treatments and have had several similar miscarriages.

The doctors have told them that he has a chromosome that will always cause it and that she can get pregnant but they are not going to have a healthy baby.

The only thing they have been advised to do for now is to donate sperm. He doesn't have a problem, but she doesn't feel comfortable with it.

When she told me I felt terrible for her because she was always very, very sweet, she is a music teacher at school and loves children.

This makes me realise that the little problems we are having along the way are not terrible and that she has been through worse. I know we shouldn't compare ourselves because we are all different and we may have other problems, but I admire how much of a fighter she is

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi MammaMia. Before any decisions are made, I would advise her to have some implications counselling, so she can discuss what is fully involved and her feelings in a neutral environment. She needs correct information before proceeding. Hope all goes well for her. Diane

[MammaMia86 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you for your advice, I will suggest to her. I think they are going to take a break

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to MammaMia86]

Hi. Just something that they need to think about when they are ready. Diane

[gianna83]

I am sorry for your friend and her husband.What they are going through is terrible.What i don't understand is her refusal to use donour sperm.Maybe she will change her mind.

[MammaMia86]

Maybe....I just think that she is being through a lot and she needs so "holidays" not thinking about fertility and then sit down again with a fresh mind