Literally no one to talk to anymore

[Refocus]

I'm 33 years old, ttc for 3years, due to start donor egg cycle next month but every day feels like an eternity. out of 15 very close friends that I would talk to anything about, only one (excluding me) hasn't had a baby or is currently pregnant in those 3 years.... Three announcements this week, two of which today. Some of them have had two in the time we've been trying. Just as I was trying to focus on myself and get a little bit excited about our donor cycle next month, I've been completely floored and crushed by these recent announcements. When will this torture end!!! I feel particularly angry and upset with one of them who I would talk to about what I'm going through and would give her help and advice because she has POS and been trying for a year and finds it tough... Up until the week before her 12 week scan, she was saying how she thinks she 'might be' pregnant and then said she wasn't because she got her period and she was starting chlomid, so I was there for her... But it was complete lies!! Am I unfair to feel completely used and taken advantage of? I'm supposed to see all three of them individually in the next couple of weeks but I kind of want to just ignore them but don't want to seem bitter and deep down they are my friends and I do want to see them, I just don't want to talk about their pregnancy or my problems! I'm so ANGRY AND UPSET right now. No need to respond... Just needed to get that out! Xxx

[Core]

I completely feel for you it’s so so hard dealing with pregnancy announcements and babies at this time. No real words of advice really but just wanted you to know you aren’t alone feeling this way xx

[Refocus in reply to Core]

Thank you. I just want to scream FML!! husband finds it all just as hard as me, so don't want to bring him down by offloading my grief and anger on him. I also want to drown my sorrows in wine but with upcoming cycle I need to look after myself! X

[Core in reply to Refocus]

I know it feels like a never ending rollercoaster! Is it a frozen or fresh cycle you’re starting?xx

[Refocus in reply to Core]

First fresh donor cycle . X

[Core in reply to Refocus]

Good luck xx

[LunaLovegood11]

Ah we totally get it, I don’t think anyone can understand infertility unless they’ve been through it. It’s a grief that hurts so bad. Sending hugs xx

[Katbaby19]

Do you know what...go have a glass of wine, it's not gona hurt if it make you feel better even for just an hour. It's very hard to hear any announcements, never mind a group of 15 close friends. I cant give you any advice on how to deal with it, but always put yourself first if you dont want to meet up this month just put it off. I found putting my own mental health before other ls has helped me a lot. Just give yourself time and take care of yourself xxx

[Hope4usall]

Totally understand. It's so so hard and no one really gets it unless they have been through it. I am doing my third donor egg cycle in a few weeks and am very nervous but looking forward to the next step. We are here for you xx

[Refocus in reply to Hope4usall]

Is it your third cycle with the same donor? Good luck, I have everything crossed that this is the one for you. Xxx

[Hope4usall in reply to Refocus]

Yes it is. This is our last embryo with this donor. We got pregnant 1st time but sadly the baby had Edwards syndrome and we had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks. Keeping everything crossed xx

[rivershark]

So sorry to hear what you are going through. I’m not surprised you feeling angry and it’s ok.

This is a lonely journey and I’ve found it’s difficult for others to begin to understand what it’s ike if they haven’t been through it.

I’ve been keeping to myself with the ivf but luckily I’ve some good friends that have suffered infertility and understand. This forum is great too

Focus on yourself and your energies on your upcoming cycle

We all need good friends but it’s a 2 way - make sure you get some support for yourself

My best friend who listens and is always there for me is my collie cross dog

Wishing you the best

Take care of yourself x

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Try to focus on your energy and be positive for your next cycle. Don’t waste it on other people’s journes