Hi everyone, I haven’t been here for some time after ceasing treatment..hubby and I have just tried to move on and recover/get our sanity back after years of ttc and IVF and we will be moving forward down the adoption route soon.
I’m just struggling at the moment and wanted to reach out to those I know will understand and can give advice. Last week we lost our beloved dog, we had to take the extremely difficult decision to put her to sleep because she was very old and suffering. We know it was the right decision for her, it would be very cruel to keep her going for us and we know how lucky we’ve been to have such a loving and loyal companion for so long, I just miss her so much 💔 she really was my best friend, there for all we’d been through over the years, always cheering us up with her big personality in a little body and because I work from home, always by my side. The house now feels quiet and empty and I think this loss has brought back previous losses and really highlighted the fact that we don’t have the life we’d dreamed off 😢
I’m also struggling with an issue with a friend..she had her second baby the day after we said goodbye to our pooch, and chose the same name as our dog. That’s not my issue though, they would have chosen it a while ago and of course they can call their child whatever they like. I just feel weird because we only saw her the week before, where we told them we thought it was almost time to end our pooches suffering and they didn’t say anything about names. I totally understand it would have been awkward for them but I would have much preferred they were just honest rather than us receiving this info in a text. I just wish they’d acknowledged it, said something like I’m so sorry if this upsets you but we’d chosen the name a while ago..am I being super unreasonable here?
There’s also an issue with this particular friend that we live about 15 miles from one another and because she already had one child, it was always me who travelled to see her. I’ve never really had an issue with this because I can be flexible because of my work situation and I was happy to get out of the house and have a break. The thing is now, I actually feel a bit resentful if she expects this to continue. Unfortunately I think she will because of course she has a brand new baby plus a older child she has to drop off & pick up from nursery. I’m also not sure I’m feeling strong enough to visit the baby just yet, the loss of our dog has left me feeling pretty raw and I just don’t know if I can face all the joy and use the name without breaking down. It will just become weird if I leave it too long though..any advice ladies? Sorry for the long post xx